Post # 1
So my fi and I are basically paying for everything for our wedding, which is not a big deal BUT tbh I really don’t want to have to fork out even more money for a rehearsal dinner…
is a rehearsal dinner even necessary?
if it is and/or should be done is there anyway to make it more cost effective (and I’m seriously thinking under $200-300 max)?
who you invite to the dinner?
and what are you even supposed to do? can it be done at a friends house…??
I’m just feeling overwhelmed with this crap lol Thank you guys!
Post # 3
My aunt has volunteered to host our rehearsal dinner.. Maybe a close family member wouldn’t mind hosting for you? Everyone could bring a dish potluck style? That’s what we are doing.. It won’t be anything fancy. Everyone will bring their own drinks, and we will just hang out for a bit before we all go our separate ways
Post # 4
@mm13: I would say a rehearsal is necessary but can be done cheaply. If you’re having a church wedding just have a potluck in the basement, if not maybe a family’s home close by. Invite the bridal party and their guests, parents, grandparents, siblings and their guest, flower girl/ring bearer and their parents is traditionally who is invited. If you want to invite Out of Town guests too. It’s just a time to get everything finalized before the big day and visit with everyone, make sure they know the plan for the following day.
Post # 5
We’re just going out to a decent restaraunt for ours but it’s only my parents, his dad, his sister and her husband and their kids, plus my two MsOH so it’s not that many. You could also do what FortiesFlare said and just see if someone will host it and do a potluck at someone’s house.
Post # 6
@mm13: We’re not having a rehearsal, but since so many people are flying in, we felt we had to host some sort of welcome dinner. We’re actually renting a room on our hotel block because people are arriving at all different times, so finding a time when everyone wanted to eat was difficult (east coast and west coast peeps). Our friends are doing a Carolina Bbq buffet (pulled pork, ribs, mac n cheese, slaw, baked beans) and we’re grabbing some local beers so that everyone visiting can get a little taste of NC. I think it’s costing us about $200 for the food and beers, and about $100 for the room.
Post # 7
@mm13: i’m not experienced in weddings at all, but we aren’t having a proper rehearsal dinner and noone seems offended by it. we’ll get together with the bridal party for dinner in a restaurant the night before, talk over the proceedings, that’s about it. i am fairly sure we won’t be footing the bill for the dinner, but we won’t go anywhere expensive so it shouldn’t be a problem. i hope i’m not advising you with any bad etiquette since i don’t know much about it!
Post # 8
We probably won’t be doing a rehearsal dinner. Our rehearsal at the church is the night before at 7. Our ceremony starts at 10 am, so we will all need to be up super early to get ready. We will be hosting a brunch the day after the wedding for all of our out of town guests. So, hopefully that makes up for the lack of rehearsal dinner.
As for suggestions – a friend said just to have people over the house for some coffee and dessert. Or have a small bring a dish you like dinner.
Post # 9
We are having our rehearsal dinner at our house after a quick run-through at our venue. We will be ordering a few pizzas, salads and fruit trays – as well as pop, beer etc.
We just wanted a relaxing atmosphere where we can chat and give them their gifts. Hopefully the weather will be nice so we can make use of new deck!
To save a little more money we did free E-Vites from Punchbowl which were a big hit!
Post # 10
I think a rehearsal dinner can be SUPER affordable! I’ve seen a bunch of cute pizza paralour ones on The Knot! Buy like 5 pizzas and 5 2 liter bottles of soda, and have fun at the paralour! If it’s a local pizza place, it’s probably already cutely decorated!
Post # 11
We’re having a rehearsal dinner. It’ll be about 15 guests, but cost about $140. We’re getting takeout half trays of lasagna, ravioli, and salad from a local pizza place and having the dinner at our house (which is closer than any restaurant to our ceremony location).
Post # 12
In my opinion, the rehearsal dinner is pretty much a necessity. You definitely want to have a rehearsal, so everyone knows when to enter, where to stand, etc., and it’s natural to follow it with a “thank you” meal to show appreciation for your bridal party.
To save some money, we are having a rehearsal luncheaon instead of a dinner. The food prices will be lower, and there won’t be alcohol (which saves a HUGE amount of money with my family). The rehearsal will be at noon, and the luncheon will be at one.
Post # 13
Honestly? I don’t think it is necessary if you are on a tight budget. We did it at a friend’s house and just did BBQ. We talked about what was going to happen at the wedding for not even 5 minutes and just goofed off the rest of the time. Everything went fine the day of.
Post # 14
A friend of mine who got married had her rehearsal dinner at her house and made a giant bowl of spaghetti with garlic bread on the side. There was also a giant bowl of salad. Something like that would be really easy and cheap to make. Plus, everyone liked how casual her rehearsal dinner was.
Post # 15
For my cousin’s wedding, the bride-to-be’s parents had it dinner at their house. My grandfather made a few pots of gumbo and we all Hung out. It was fun. It doesn’t have to be a big, fancy affair.
Post # 16
I agree that a rehearsal dinner should be done, but it doesn’t have to be anything expensive or elaborate. Just friends/family and food. 🙂