Post # 1
Let me explain the situation: we’re getting married in a somewhat rural area, destination style (similar to Mrs. Cherry Pie’s scenario). I’m not so sure what to do about the rehearsal dinner, or whether or not to even have one. I have heard that doing a welcome type dinner/drinks thing the night before for the out of town guests is a fun idea, but sounds pricey. If we have a rehearsal dinner, it would have to be at the same place that the wedding will take place at. Therefore, I am sort of leaning toward the direction of having a rehearsal dinner before the whole thing in my hometown, or just doing some type of small bridesmaids/groomsmen gathering.
What are other destination brides doing? What would YOU do?
Post # 3
I would have a welcome party. I don’t think it has to be anything fancy, a few munchies (veggie trays, fruit tray, cheese tray, and maybe some light dessert) served with some non-alcoholic beverages.
We did this for our wedding, and just let people come and go as they pleased. It was great to spend time with everyone.
Good Luck deciding!
Post # 4
Hmm, that’s not a bad idea. The thing is it would probably have to be in the hotel dining room/restaurant because it’s too expensive to rent out a space…but maybe we can work something out where we order appetizers and a drink for everyone?
Post # 5
Mine was pretty rural too and I didn’t want guests having to fend for themselves- foodwise- the night before the wedding.
However, it was expensive and it was basically a mini-wedding (at the same venue).
However, it was also a BLAST and gave everyone an excuse to come for the whole weekend, get to know each other, catch up, etc.
So it was worth the money to me.
I know people always hate to make guests pay, but could you figure how much it would cost per person and say something to your guests like, "Everyone is welcome to gather at Venue on Friday night for a welcome dinner. Adults $X, Kids, $X." And perhaps if you had it in your budget you could just subsidize your guests costs?
Post # 6
Do you need a traditional rehearsal to plan who stands where, when people move, etc, during the ceremony?
If not, then skip the RD and take the advice you already have. If you want a rehearsal dinner, then do it just for the family & wedding party and make a suggestion for your other guests to get together or mingle in another way that you’re not footing the bill for. Depending on the timing of everything, weary travelers might want to relax and save their partying for the wedding!
Post # 7
I live in a rural area so this is always a challenge for me. We’re actually hosting a rehearsal dinner BBQ that will not only cut down on costs, but also be fun and casual. We’re inviting family and mostly out of town guests, but not all guests.
Post # 8
We’re having a destination wedding too – and we’re inviting EVERYONE to the rehearsal dinner. Although it might sound like having a second reception, we’re making it very casual (i.e. jeans and boots), doing a fun Western BBQ with keg beer and mainly using it as a way for everyone to get to know each other before the wedding. We’re probably going to hook up an ipod to a boom box, we’ll keep the microphone open all night for toasts (or roasts!) and we’re setting up a couple games (bocce ball, horseshoes, etc.). Turns out it isn’t going to be nearly as expensive as we thought. And I think everyone will really appreciate it after traveling so far to be with us for the weekend.
Post # 9
I’m still on the fence about this. I think for me it will fall down on how many people will be coming the night prior.
I have also heard of people having a RD with just the immediate family & BP. Then telling OOT guests that they will be at XYZ bar afterwards; come meet us for drinks!
Honestly though I think I would want to be well rested for the wedding day and do just the RD then go rest up and party hardy the next day. I’m leaning mroe towards having guests join us for brunch the day after. 🙂
Post # 10
I REALLY wanted to have a welcome party, but we are having a more formal rehearsal dinner. A welcome party sounds fun!
Post # 11
I think you’ve got the right idea with doing it before hand if you want to!
I also have a destination wedding in the mountains (pretty rural) but it’s at a camp ground and my fiance’s parents live really close… we’re having a really informal BBQ at his house the day before with the wedding party and anyone else involved immediately with the wedding.
For out of town family we’re doing a brunch the morning of the wedding!
Post # 12
Ours is a quasi destination (at a resort in the middle of nowhere and we are all staying up for the weekend.) We are having a RD in a separate room/restaraunt than our actual reception, but both are in the same resort.
We are having a RD on the earlier side (like 6:30-8:30) and then having a welcome/reception for our guests on site thereafter with cocktails. Depending on how the budget unfolds, we may have some appetizers for our guests, too.
Post # 13
Since we will be asking so many people to travel to see us, we’ve agreed to do a welcome party the night before. It’ll be a great way for people to meet wach other, and we feel like if people are spending the vacation time and money to come see us, we should be as available for them as we can be! It’ll probably be a BBQ in the park in our neighborhood.
Post # 14
We are having a destination wedding and having an all-guest dinner the night before. I’ll be really glad to have everyone meet eachother before the wedding because a second meeting is always less awkward. It is going to be fairly inexpensive as we’re just having a really casual cowboy barbecue, but we have added this into the budget for the wedding so it isn’t coming as a surprise to us.
Post # 15
I’m having a sort-of destination wedding. My fiance has family in the part of Florida where we are getting married. Our rehersal dinner consists of the wedding party and their dates (as they had to take as many days off as the bridal party to travel) and our immediate families. The dinner is just a house-party with some trays of food from the grocery store catering dept (Mmm Publix) out by the pool. You could do something really similar in a park! Anywhere with picnic tables would be fine.
Post # 16
i say go tradiditional. i mean its not a mini wedding and it can get pricey even when youre doing light appetizers for the entire guest list.