Post # 1
So, I’m having a slight problem with my rehearsal dinner: I don’t know who all to invite!
My FH and I are getting married out of town and every person who is coming to the wedding (excluding my family) are traveling into town on the day before the wedding. This includes his father and stepmom and his mother, sister, sister’s baby and her SO. We only have one attendant each, but our friends will be coming into town that day.
Do we keep it only for immediate family and attendants or do we invite everyone to join and purchase their own dish? No word on whether or not FIL will be paying the bill.
Post # 2
You should host the people who participated in the rehearsal. If you cant afford to host everyone, I wouldn’t advertise it.
Maybe a bar/pub meet up after the dinner though? Passed by word of mouth/informal so people know you aren’t hosting it. “We’ll be at Bobs Tavern from 8-10 if you want to come by and say hi!”
Post # 3
Host the people you can afford to host. Don’t invite people and then make them pay thier own way, that’s rude.
The majority of our guest list was out of town but we didn’t want to host everyone two days in a row, it just wasn’t in our budget. Our rehearsal was our grandparents, immediate family, wedding party, and all SOs of those invited. The rest of our guests all had thier own, fun plans for that night. No one cared that they weren’t invited to the rehearsal, I think they all much preferred getting to do thier own thing.
Post # 4
Invite only those you can afford to host. It would be way too awkward and rude to have some guests having to pull out their wallets and others not.
Traditionally, the RD includes the wedding party and their SO’s, siblings and their SO’s, parents and grandparents. It is noce to invite the OOT’s but not always financially feasible as it would basically duplicate the guestlist for the wedding.One way to include the OOT’s would be to invite them to join you for coffee/dessert at the end of the evening.
Post # 5
we invited wedding party, most OOT guests who arrived on friday night, and a few special guests (we had a 40 person minimum)
invite who you want. but i would not invited people and then tell them to pay their own way.
you can ask them to join you whereever afterwards for drinks.
Post # 6
We are invited immediate family and wedding party only to dinner. Later in the evening we are having a less formal welcome reception at the hotel bar which everyone is invited to. We are doing appetizers and a cash bar at the welcome reception.
Post # 7
If they are at the rehearsal then they get dinner, exception can be made to grandparents as they fall under immediate family.
Post # 8
I agree with only inviting people you’re paying for but I like the idea of then having drinks after for everyone. That can be informal and everyone pays their way.
Post # 9
How far out of town? We are getting married 2.5 hours away from where we live – it is a fun place to getaway that alot of people in our current city (and FI’s home city, 3 hours away from wedding city) go to for a weekend. I’ve even gone on day trips there. We can’t afford a welcome dinner for everyone (nor could we find a place to accommodate that sie of party), so we are planning on inviting wedding party, their SO’s, immediate family, and anyone who is legitimately traveling from very far away. Talking plane tickets from overseas or several states away.
Post # 10
I am getting married out of state and everyone is either driving or flying in. We don’t have a bridal party so we are doing an informal get together in town at a beer garden the night before so we can all hang out. People are welcome to come and go as they please. We won’t be paying for everyone since it’s just a get together and not required to come.