Post # 1
Ok so we are having a wedding of only 100 people and 30 people at the rehearsal dinner. My father is paying for our entire ceremony/reception venue and my mom is paying for the cake and all of the food for the reception. My parents are not loaded and this is a big contribution for them to make and I am thankful for that. FI & I are on a small budget and we haven’t asked for anything extravagant for the wedding, we are getting catering from a nice grocery store and the venue was about 1/4 of the price of others in the area.
So…. then come FI’s parents who are fairly broke as well and haven’t offered to contribute anything to the wedding. I asked FI to ask his parents if they could chip some: FFIL to host rehearsal dinner and FMIL to buy linens. Well, FMIL is ok with helping us FFIL couldn’t afford a dinner of 30 people at a restaurant (totally understandable) so I said maybe we could cook some frozen lasagna at the ceremony & reception venue (which has several houses that we are all staying in around the venue with fully equipped kitchens). FI was just on the phone with his dad tonight and his dad mentioned just getting some pizzas very nonchalantly. Oh by the way by, the wedding is in the mountains in the middle of nowhere, the closest town is 20 minutes away with a population 8,000. If he got pizza (if there even is a pizza place in that small town) it is still 20 minutes away and the pizzas would be cold by the time they got to the venue!! I’m sorry I don’t want pizza at my rehearsal dinner this isn’t a chuckee cheese birthday party! I will probably just go buy the stuff I want so I don’t have to put anyone out $100 for their son’s wedding! The lasagna’s are $20 each and serve 12 so we would only need 5 so people could have seconds and it would cost $100. FI got so upset that he punched a hole in the wall, that’s a whole other issue entirely! Uhh my gawd I hate all this drama!! 🙁
Post # 4
@Nona99: I LOL’d when I read your response.
Post # 5
He punched a hole in the wall over lasagna?
I cannot say that I see a difference between pizza (logistics aside) and frozen lasagna being served. If you feel so strongly about the rehearsal dinner, you probably need to handle it yourself.
FIL was totally clueless about the RD. He basically told us to plan it and ask for his credit card when we were ready. The last thing I wanted was to plan something else but if I’d left it up to FIL or even DH we wouldn’t have had a rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
Oh my.. let us know how you go.
Post # 7
damn that must be one good lasagna for him to punch a hole though a wall lol
Post # 8
@Ellegee: Right? I mean, the ONLY difference between pizza and lasagna is one has crust and the other has pasta…if we’re willing to heat up frozen lasagna in the full kitchen at the venue…why are we so set against heating up a few pizza’s? It defies logic….
Post # 9
Yeah the drama sucks. How’s FI’s hand?
Your FIL’s gave you the option they are willing to spring for…. I think hit COSTCO and get some lasagna’s.
@Nona99: thanks for making me spit water all over the desk lol
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
yeah… I think you both need to take a step back from this. Is frozen lasagna really all that different than pizza?? And it would still probably be fine when it got there
Post # 11
it is very hard to deal with that. sorry that you have to go through that over a few LASAGNAS!
I do understand you not wanting pizza and that you would rather pay for it yourself. Your FI just sounds upset that his parents are not contributing like he thought they should have.
(PS pizza near me pizza costs about 20 a pie- and you would have to get a MINIMUM of 8 + for people to get 2 slices each that would cost the SAME OR MORE)
Post # 12
@HisIrishPrincess: Sorry, put it on my tab and I’ll throw in a pizza or something 😉
Post # 13
@Nona99: compromise! frozen pizza!
Post # 14
I’m having pizza at my rehearsal dinner. My in-laws will be there and I’m paying for it, and my walls are all intact. Gotta learn to pick your battles.
Post # 15
@Ellegee: Either that or delivered lasagna…..does that EVEN exist, cause that would rock! How would you even order that?
Hello? Little Italy? I’d like three buckets of lasagna and a box of your finest wine!
God that would be amazing!
Post # 16
Now you have to pay for lasagne AND a new wall. Certainly is drama city.