Post # 1
According to my checklists I should soon start thinking about the rehearsal dinner. News to me!
I’m not sure what we’re going to do. My Future In-Laws gave us a very generous, unsolicited contribution to the wedding. I know the Future In-Laws usually give the dinner, but I don’t really want to seem like I’m asking for that on top of the money they gave us, so I’m just going to assume until they speak up otherwise that we’re going to host it.
So I started shopping restaurants. And… woah. I was coming in with numbers like $1500. $2500. (for the number of people we’re going to NEED – that’s not even including Out of Town guests, which are kind of a question mark until RSVPs come in).
I’m thinking instead we’ll do a family style party at my parents’ home (this has been approved) – run through the wedding ceremony a few times with key players, and then spend the rest of the night partying. I think it’s doable with the help of costco or maybe a pick-up caterer, supplemented with a few makeahead things I can cart to my mom’s. Beer in the cooler. Music on the ipod. A laid-back kind of night (which is really more our style anyway).
So bees – has anyone done an at-home rehearsal, or plan to? Advice?
Post # 3
@atalante: We did ours at my aunt and uncle’s house. We did the actual rehearsal at the church and then the dinner/party at the house. My husband’s uncle has a gyro machine and he made gyro, we had pilaf, salad, other Armenian food, etc; all made my husband’s family (we were in his home town). Got drinks and flowers at Costco, filled up a mix match of vases and table cloths, paper plates, etc. It was perfect for our 80 person rehearsal and really nice to have a very relaxed atmosphere compared to our very formal 350 person wedding the next day. Totally do-able!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
My mom is hosting our rehearsal dinner at her house. It was that or pay for 20 people’s dinner somewhere (and that is the bare minimum of people included – wedding party and only a few extra family members). So, we’ll be at the venue for an hour for the rehearsal, then going to her house for a buffet. I think it’s totally fine.
Post # 5
We’re talking about doing ours at our home. FILs are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner but one big problem we’ve run into is that some of the places won’t actually block off a section for us AND it’s high school graduation that night in a VERY SMALL town which means that the restaurants are going to be packed out! So we’re trying to work out what we’re going to do…. try to get a restaurant or just grill out at our house…. which is looking like the likely choice to be honest and I think it’s completely fine 🙂
Post # 6
I’m kind of in the same situation as you. When the planning first started, my Future In-Laws offered to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner and reception alcohol. It was nice knowing that those two things were taken care of. However, just recently they offered to give us a very generous amount towards the overall wedding cost. Although we can definitely take care of the reception alcohol and Rehearsal Dinner now with their contribution money, I’m unsure if we are responsible for the Rehearsal Dinner now. My fiance and I are pretty laid back and are actually having our ceremony in the backyard of our new house so it makes most sense and convienence to have our Rehearsal Dinner at our house. We will do a quick run through of ceremony sequences and then have a nice family style dinner. Best of luck!
Post # 7
My sister’s was in her backyard. Gorgeous. Lights strung up across the yard and a giant long table for everyone to sit at. People who were chefs i.e. Moms, Lenny, pitched in and cooked. It was laidback and perfect.
We are planning along the same lines but using our amenity room. We will pick up banh mi and gelato from our favorite place, stock the fridge with drinks, set up some tables and done. Rehearsal dinners always seem more casual to me so to have a plated dinner is not necessary. I’ve already made the invites and the total cost for food/drink/room rental is $300! So cheap.
Post # 8
I had it in the party room of my condo and cooked the food beforehand and just wamred it up. Family brought some food as well. We loved it. It was relaxed and more of a family gathering and everyone had a great time.
Post # 9
I’m planning on doing this and hoping that Future Mother-In-Law will step in and host it at her place. She loves cooking for many (I’m not just saying this, she really does) and since most of the people are from her family….and they’re not contributing at all financially…..here’s hoping!! I think it would be lovely to have it at home.
If she doesn’t offer, we’ll have it at our (tiny) house. It won’t be fancy, but it will be….cozy. 🙂