(Closed) Rehearsal dinner concerns!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Unfortunately… it’s their party and they get to be as rude and inconsiderate as they want. (And it sounds like they want it a lot.) When I hosted/organized my FI’s son’s rehearsal dinner, I took the guest list they gave me and used that. It would never have occurred to me to add on a bunch of my own friends/family members. But some people are clueless jerks, and there’s not much you can do.

Post # 4
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

Yikes!! I would hope that Fiance would say something to his parents. If they cant/won’t pay for your relatives to come, I would just send out invitations to them anyway and ask if your parents would pay. If it was me, my family would feel so disrespected by not being invited, and I would prefer to upset/point out how unfair this is to my FIL/MIL than to have my family and bridal party feel that I was the rude/ungrateful one. Good luck! xo

Post # 5
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hawaiibunny:  Is this rehearsal dinner, as many rehearsal dinners are, right after the actual ceremony rehearsal?   I would most certainly say something about that, especially if two of your bridesmaids have to go home after the rehearsal.  Maybe just ask if they can be included since the rehearsal dinner is to include the wedding party and you assumed they would be invited.  It would be hard for them to just say NO to your request. 

Post # 6
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Frankly, it is rude not to invite everyone in the wedding party to the rehearsal dinner. I think it needs to be cleared with them (from FI) that rehearsal dinners are typically a dinner for anyone who participated in the rehearsal. And that’s it. It’s crazy to invite all these people and then turn around and have a wedding the following day. Even if they are paying for it, it is not their party. It’s you and your FI’s. They are just graciously paying for it. 

Post # 7
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Jessy727:  +1! Took the words right out of my mouth.

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