Post # 1
so I have a bit of a dilemma. We are getting married on Nov 1 2014, which means that our rehearsal night falls on Halloween. I am not all that excited by this as I’m not a huge Halloween fan (it’s fun, don’t get me wrong, but I would never have imagined incorporating it into my wedding). My mother also hates Halloween and everything to do with it (she thinks its too focused on dark/evil things). the problem is our wedding is in south beach, which is kind of nuts on Halloween (lots of ppl walking around in costumes and bars are all taken over, extra police presence, etc). I don’t think that this going to go over well for the older generation attending our wedding (I am even annoyed by the craziness of it all as a resident at the age of 29).
so, what to do? My fiancé thinks we should totally embrace it and have an all out themed rehearsal– I am pretty opposed to this idea. I think it’s asking a lot of our guests (who are 98% from out off town) to also pack a costume. That would stress me out if I were going to a wedding and had a bunch of other things to think about. I’m wondering if there is a way to incorporate it into the event but not in an over-the-top way. I don’t even know what that is, but my fiancé thinks completely ignoring the fact that it is halloween and this craziness is going on around us is also a bad idea.
I am also thinking of having the rehearsal “dinner” be more of an open house happy hour somewhere (with heavy apps) from like 6-8. I like this idea for a few reasons: 1) we can invite everyone in town at that time (as I mentioned all of our guests basically are from out of town so I would like to be able to invite them to something without having to throw another wedding– completely out of the budget) and 2) the craziness in south beach doesn’t really get too bad until about 9– so this way if ppl want to stay out and participate they can (or break off into groups for more food/drinks) or if they want to head back to the hotel and order some room service or eat at one of those restaurants they can avoid the scene for the most part (I’m assuming some off our older guests would prefer this approach). Is it bad not to provide a formal dinner though? I’m not even sure we’d be able to find a reasonable option with halloween and our budget concerns.
Any advice/opinions on this woulbest super helpful! Thanks!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Not sure from your post, but is your wedding party all from out of town? If not, could you hold you rehearsal dinner another night? Your OOT guests do not have to be invited to the rehearsal dinner, but if you’re looking for something else to do with them, a day after brunch is always appreciated.
I wouldn’t be too keen on packing a costume, either.
Post # 4
Have a Halloween candy table! (Like a dessert table, but with Halloween candy)!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@305Bride: If you’re done by 9 then your guests should be able to avoid the more controversial partiers. And the ones that want to party will have plenty of time to go out. Check with your rehearsal dinner site to see if they decorate for Halloween. If they do then maybe theme your colors to complement the Halloween decor but you don’t have to have Halloween themed dinner. If they don’t then decorate however you wish. If some of your guests want to celebrate Halloween then they can go out on the town after the rehearsal dinner and enjoy.
Post # 6
@rebwana: yeah, our wedding party are all out of town unfortunately. We are likely going to do a brunch too, so do you think it’s okay to invite ou of town guests to hat instead and keep the rehearsal to just wedding party and family?
also thanks or reaffirming my suspicion that a costume party would prob not be appreciated by everyone (I feel like 1/2 would love it an 1/2 would be like WTF).
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: that is a cute idea– we should def do that.
Post # 8
@305Bride: I think if you finish before 9 then that would be fine. Are there any kids in your wedding party? Maybe you could offer a compromise and let the kids come in costume if they want to.
I absolutely love Halloween. Having the option to dress in costume would be fun, but I probably wouldn’t do it for someone’s wedding related activities (unless everyone was going to; Bride and Groom included).
Post # 9
@305Bride: We really wanted to get married on November 1, but this was one reason why we didn’t. I think an overly Halloween rehearsal dinner with costumes would be really cheesy (no offense to your fiance). I would treat it as any other rehearsal dinner and not incorporate Halloween into it. Since feeding everyone at a restaurant is pricey, is there someone’s house you could have the rehearsal dinner? A friend of mine had a traveling taco man do tacos for everyone at her uncle’s house (which was near the wedding venue). It was WAAAY cheaper, fun for the guests, and then you wouldn’t have to worry about being somewhere where everyone is celebrating Halloween. For my wedding, no one lives close by, but we are looking into renting a house as a vacation rental for my family (instead of a bunch of hotel rooms) and I’m thinking about doing a barbeque.
Post # 10
I actually just decided to change our date from the 1st to the 8th for this reason! I also love, LOVE Halloween, which was why I picked the first to begin with…but after thinking about it, I just didn’t want to be stressing out about the wedding on my favorite holiday. Plus, we have quite a few kids in the wedding, and I didn’t want to take some of Halloween night away from them.
BUT! If we would have kept the 1st as our date, we totally would have made the rehearsal dinner a big costume party! I think that would be so much fun!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@305Bride: I would keep the rehearsal dinner just to wedding party/immediate family. You don’t need to provide three meals for your guests- it can really add up.
I like the idea of the candy bar at the RD.
Post # 12
Our wedding is going to be ON Halloween and we are absolutely NOT incorporating costumes and orange&black into it. It is just another (very special) day. I say just go wherever you want to go, PP mentioned that by the time you are done with the dinner the craziness will just barely be getting started. I wouldn’t stress too much about it. If kids are coming in from out of town, what Halloween plans could they have anyway?
Post # 13
i wouldnt incorporate it into the rehearsal dinner, id just treat it like a normal night
Post # 14
You most certainly do not have to invite all the OOT’s to the rehearsal dinner.Limiting the guest list to immediate family, the wedding party and their SO’s makes it much easier to focus your attention on recognizing the wedding party which, after all, is the purpose of the dinner.
If you use white pumpkins, you could give a nod to Hallowe’en without going anywhere near orange and black.
gold pumpkins also keep it elegant
Post # 15
You don’t have to invite everyone.
Maybe you could consider a rehearsal brunch, though? It normally doesn’t get all crazy until trick or treating and bars open up, so maybe if you have it earlier you can avoid all of the drunks/costumers and cops.
If you really aren’t into halloween, I wouldn’t try to force halloween into the theme.
And, your guests [the ones that live nearby] could still enjoy halloween with their families.