Rehearsal Dinner – Do I have To?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had pizza and salad 🙂 nothing really fancy. it worked out fine!

Post # 4
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You don’t have to do a traditional rehearsal dinner where all the OOT guests are invited.  We didn’t. 

However, I would do something for your BP and parents as a personal thank you for their help, love, and support.  Even if it’s just ordering some pizza or making a bunch of pasta.

Post # 5
1555 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The rehearsal dinner is a nice way to thank your bridal party – it doesn’t need to be something very fancy. Just invite them all over after the rehearsal and order some pizzas or something. Its not necessary to invite OOT guests to the RD. 

Post # 6
1470 posts
Bumble bee

I feel like if you’re having a rehearsal, especially with out of town guests (who have roles in the wedding)…it’s only fair to feed the essential people lol.


I’m not having a rehearsal or attendants, and my wedding is basically a dinner so I’m not the best person to answer this, but that’s my opinion.




Post # 7
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Pizza is great for rehearsal dinners.

And if I had to go to a rehearsal and then wasn’t fed… I’d kind of think the bride/groom didn’t care about the happiness of the bridal party.  It’s such a basic tradition that thanks them for putting in the time to go to the rehearsal.

Post # 9
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you have a rehearsal, you need to have a rehearsal dinner. Just invite the wedding party and their dates, parents of the flower girl and ring bearer, etc — don’t worry about out of town guests that aren’t involved in the wedding ceremony.

Post # 10
13 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m concerned about this issue as well! Our wedding is out of town, so a dinner at home isn’t an option unfortunately. It is in a small town, so no very inexpensive restaurants either, and most of our wedding party and family is bring extra guests with them for the weekend, so we would also need to pay for a restaurant dinner and drinks for their guests! Would be at least $1000 dinner when we are working on a $10,000 budget for the entire wedding! However, if we don’t have one, I don’t know how to end the rehearsal! Everyone who is at the rehearsal is staying in the same lodge.

Post # 11
3217 posts
Sugar bee

@MsGinkgo:  if you ask people to come and rehearse, then yes you must host them in thanks.

It doesn’t have to be fancy.

Post # 12
49 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I guess it’s the thought that counts in this case….I think it’s pretty standard to have a rehearsal dinner but if it’s simply not feasible in your case then it’s not feasible! 

Post # 13
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had chili dogs and beer. It was fun, and super inexpensive.

Post # 14
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No need to be fancy, we had the pizza/side dishes thing at a friends wedding (parents bought the pizza and everyone in the family brought a side dish as well, salads, subs, etc).  It’s a nice chance to get together with everyone prior to the wedding, and there is no need for it to get expensive!

Post # 15
20 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are having ours at a clubhouse and we’re having breakfast for dinner & asking our guests to come in Pajamas… 🙂  I think it will be fun, light hearted and we just didn’t want everyone to have to be all dressed up two nights in a row… SO PJ Party it is!

Post # 16
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsGinkgo:  You don’t have to do a traditional rehearsal dinner where all the OOT guests are invited. 

It is not traditional to include all out of town guests. This is a fairly recent innovation started by brides with a large budget. Yes, it’s nice to host and socialize with the OOT’s ahead of the wedding, but it is in no way the expectation, nor the norm.
Most people expect that the rehearsal dinner will be limited to the wedding party and close family.
You do not have to do what your friends did for the RD. I’m quite sure there are other things about your wedding that are different from their weddings.
Have the maturity to have the wedding you can afford, including the RD.
I have been to pizza and beer RD’s, bowling party RD’s etc. My favorite was a picnic in a local park. It was so relaxing and fun!

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