- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Just venting here– I love my fiance’s parents, but planning our rehearsal has been super frustrating, mostly because of his dad and it really makes me grateful for my father. I don’t know what everyone else’s rehearsal dinner planning experience has been like, but his parents took us to a lot of nice restaurants for months to see where we’d like to host our rehearsal. They didn’t give us a budget and were really vague about planning the dinner. I would have been happy with them picking a restaurant, but somehow, everything fell on me, and I had to call every restaurant, do the research and when we found a place they like that had the best deal, his dad got all fussy about it, even saying that he should write a check to my fiance’s brother for the cost difference between his rehearsal dinner! (His brother’s rehearsal dinner was in a different city and not during the holidays.) Then, he wanted to know exactly how much he’d be paying, which is fine, he’s an accountant and wants to make sure he’s not going to get ripped off, but I just feel like I have a million other things to worry about, and I sent him the restaurant’s event planner, why can’t he calculate the estimated total? How am I supposed to know how much people will be drinking? My dad has been very generous with us and gave us a budget, letting us use it how we wanted. I know parents aren’t obligated to pay for anything, but I have 2 sisters, one whom is also getting married next year, and two brothers. My parents are also frugal, but they know this is important and have saved a long time for it. My fiance has 2 brothers and are well off. It just seems like there’s a double standard or his dad is just really miserly. I’m not trying to whine, but it really makes me appreciate my parents’ generosity, not only finacially, but just their love, and I hope I’m the same way with my children.