Post # 1
My fiance is a chef and his family wants to have our rehearsal dinner at the restaurant he works at. I am dead set against this. His family has had many parties there and my fiance never gets to enjoy them because he essentially works the whole time and only joins us for the last hour or so. And if his family needs something they ask him rather than the wait staff.
It was brought up about a week ago and I said I did not want to have the dinner there and explained why. I could see his parents were not happy about this. Am I out of line for putting my foot down? Do I need to suck it up because they’re paying? I just really want my fiance to be able to relax and enjoy himself. And I know if we’re there with his staff waiting on us, he’ll be thinking too much. Help!
Post # 3
“Fiance” is the male version of the word.
Since it’s your fiance’s family and his restaurant, I think HE needs to put his foot down about it.
Post # 4
Anyway, if your partner does not want the rehearsal dinner there, it shouldn’t be there. If it is just YOU saying that, then I don’t think you should make a fuss. Good luck!
BTW: Fiancee means a woman who is engaged. I think you meant fiance.
Post # 5
@distracts: +1 have him stand up to them.
Post # 6
I actually had no idea there was a male and female version of the word! LOL
He’s indifferent about it. He’s told me he wouldn’t mind having it at his restaurant because he knows we’ll get a good meal. But then he’ll tell me he appreciates that I’m the only one who understands that he misses out on enjoying parties.
Post # 7
@Ali-oop: If he doesn’t mind, then it’s no big deal. Just make sure he’s not working that night.
Fiance is a word from French. In French, feminine words have an extra e. So like a guy would be “blond” and a woman would be “blonde”.
Post # 8
That’s easier said than done. If we have it there, he will work and I will get upset. It happens at every party. Even when he finally joins us for parties, his family will go to him for extra napkins, coffee, etc.
Post # 9
@Ali-oop: I think you need to raise your very valid concerns with your fiance, then have him speak to his family. I don’t think you’re out of line whatsoever. Perhaps tell him that you want to try a restaurant you’ve never been so, since this is a very special occasion.