- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
So my mother (now separated from my dad recently) offered along with her mother to help plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner.
However, they have decided that since they are paying for it, they get to design the rehearsal dinner around their own wishes. Read: wedding party, their +1’s, and now combined with a family reunion with ONLY my mom’s side of the family. So 3/4ths of the relatives not invited and 1/4 invited that shouldn’t be.
I explained this was not acceptable or appropriate many times and she hasn’t budged. Recently she threatened to simply not pay for it at all leaving me to pay for the bill.
So my question is, in a typical nice family; who is supposed to be invited to the rehearsal dinner? And if my mother has created all of this drama, should she still be invited? And typically the invitations to the rehearsal dinner say that the Groom’s Family invites you to the Rehearsal dinner on xx/xx/2013. Should I say that still even though my family is not going to pay for it?
Last, do I need to send out snail mail invitations for this and get formal cards like my wedding invitations or just email everyone attending? Should be 43 guests total, most of them our wedding party and their +1’s (we have 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen).
Thanks for putting up with a noob.