(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Rehearsal dinner is ususally just for the bridal party/spouses and family involved in the wedding.  It is normally the responsbility of the bride/groom or whoever is hosting the rehearsal to pay for it

Post # 4
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

I have a TON of Out of Town guests, but they will not be invited to the rehersal dinner. I can’t afford it. Just the bridal party, their spouses, and our immediate family members.

Post # 6
1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MsCelisse83: If they are helping to pay for the wedding, I would say yes, the aunt & uncle should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 8
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Traditionally, the rehersal dinner is for anyone involved in the ceremony (& spouses) and your immediate families. I think you should invite the aunts and uncles who are helping to pay for the wedding, because this gift kind of puts them in a category with your immediate family. People often invite their Out of Town guests, but you definitely don’t have to. Traditionally, it’s the groom’s family’s responsibility to pay for the rehersal dinner, but idk what your situation is. You can’t really ask people to pay for their own meals. Have you considered something less expensive like taking everyone out for pizza? It’s fine if you decide to make the event more casual, and I think it could be really fun! 

Post # 9
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We had a semi-destination wedding because we are both from different cities. We invited all of our Out of Town guests to the “official” rehearsal dinner but we also kind of did a make shift welcome dinner where we said, we’re eating dinner at X at X time, if you’d like to join us you’re more than welcome to which people did join but they paid for their own food. It was very clear we weren’t “hosting” anything. If you send out invites, etc. I think it would be a little rude to ask them to pay. You can always have something very casual and simple if you feel compelled to invite certain people but can’t afford it budget wise.

Post # 10
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Sassygrn: thank you! Try telling that to my Future Mother-In-Law…she was trying to convince me that my grandma, great-grandmother and my FH’s grandma shouldn’t come to the rehearsal dinner to keep costs down because they “really aren’t involved in the wedding ceremony”. Umm…they are escorted down the aisle in the beginning of the processional, that’s involvement enough for me.

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