Post # 1
Hey ladies. The Fiance and I are still trying to figure out the logistics of the rehearsal dinner. We are having a lot of Out of Town guests and don’t really have the budget to pay for a sit down dinner for everyone. Is it considered tacky for the guest to pay for their own meals for this? We are not having the wedding in our city. Otherwise,we would just have it at a family members house. PLEASE give me your opinions. Can I get away with this??
Post # 3
Rehearsal dinner is ususally just for the bridal party/spouses and family involved in the wedding. It is normally the responsbility of the bride/groom or whoever is hosting the rehearsal to pay for it
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
I have a TON of Out of Town guests, but they will not be invited to the rehersal dinner. I can’t afford it. Just the bridal party, their spouses, and our immediate family members.
Post # 5
We both have aunts and uncles that were really close to. They are also helping to pay for the wedding. Should we invite them to the dinner as well? I am so CLUELESS when it comes to this etiquette stuff 🙁
Post # 6
@MsCelisse83: If they are helping to pay for the wedding, I would say yes, the aunt & uncle should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 7
Got it! Thank you ladies soooooo much!
Post # 8
Traditionally, the rehersal dinner is for anyone involved in the ceremony (& spouses) and your immediate families. I think you should invite the aunts and uncles who are helping to pay for the wedding, because this gift kind of puts them in a category with your immediate family. People often invite their Out of Town guests, but you definitely don’t have to. Traditionally, it’s the groom’s family’s responsibility to pay for the rehersal dinner, but idk what your situation is. You can’t really ask people to pay for their own meals. Have you considered something less expensive like taking everyone out for pizza? It’s fine if you decide to make the event more casual, and I think it could be really fun!
Post # 9
We had a semi-destination wedding because we are both from different cities. We invited all of our Out of Town guests to the “official” rehearsal dinner but we also kind of did a make shift welcome dinner where we said, we’re eating dinner at X at X time, if you’d like to join us you’re more than welcome to which people did join but they paid for their own food. It was very clear we weren’t “hosting” anything. If you send out invites, etc. I think it would be a little rude to ask them to pay. You can always have something very casual and simple if you feel compelled to invite certain people but can’t afford it budget wise.
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: thank you! Try telling that to my Future Mother-In-Law…she was trying to convince me that my grandma, great-grandmother and my FH’s grandma shouldn’t come to the rehearsal dinner to keep costs down because they “really aren’t involved in the wedding ceremony”. Umm…they are escorted down the aisle in the beginning of the processional, that’s involvement enough for me.