Rehearsal dinner etiquette – who to invite?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who to invite to rehearsal dinner?
    parents and attendants only : (9 votes)
    50 %
    parents, attendants, and grandpa : (7 votes)
    39 %
    just invite everyone related : (2 votes)
    11 %
    other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We have many more OOT guests than you do, and while I’d love to include them in the rehearsal dinner just to spend more time with them, my FI and I just can’t afford it.  So, we’re only inviting the attendants, their SOs, our parents, and FI’s siblings and their SOs.

    I think you’re right that you can’t include Grandpa without including your other OOT family, and you can’t include one side’s OOT family while ignoring the other side.  It’s either everybody or nobody, and when I had to make the same decision I went with nobody.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Required: bride and groom, imediate family on both sides, wedding party.

    Optional: Extended family, out of town guests, other special guests

    Depends on your budget and who you want there

    Post # 5
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    The only people that should be invited to the rehearsal dinner are the people in the wedding party.

    Post # 6
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    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If it is a “rehearsal” dinner, then the only people that MUST be there are the people in the wedding ceremony. That means all maids and groomsmen, flower girl & ring bearer (if any), and parents being seated as part of the processional.

    If you want to morph it into a “welcome party”, then you would also include all guests who are traveling to attend.

    Remember, since your FIL’s are hosting the evening, they are the ones who ultimately decide whether it will be a rehearsal dinner or a welcome party. Talk to them and see what they are comfortable with.

    Post # 7
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    10490 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think you’d be ok including your grandpa without the other relatives, as grandparents are often included in the rehearsal dinner.  It depends on your family dynamics though.

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