Post # 1
Who usually comes to the rehearsal dinner? I was under the impression that the rehearsal dinner would just include the people directly involved in the wedding — parents & wedding party, but my dad just told me that I’m going to have to invite all of the aunts, uncles, and cousins too. Adding that up for my family and FI’s family means that we will be inviting 50 people (half of our entire guest list) to the rehearsal dinner. So much for a small, intimate dinner…
Post # 3
Ours is small and intimate … just who is directly in the wedding party, our parents, siblings, the flower girl … oh and the readers … =) None of the extended family is involved and they don’t expect to be.
Post # 4
traditionally, its the bridal party and immidiate family. we plan on donig a welcome dinner since so many guests are from out of town, but thats not how its traditionally done. my parents are also gong to help out $$ wise because most of the OOT people are my family, that way his parents dont get stuck with it.
Post # 5
i’ve heard it done both ways. my brother had the small dinner with just the wedding party and then had a get together with all of the oot people after. we’re having it with all of the oot people, just because my future in laws are hosting in and that’s what they and my fi would prefer, and i don’t care either way. i think it’s nice to get together with your guests from out of town since you dont get to see them often, but i also think it’s such a busy weekend that it might be nice to have the intimate dinner.
Post # 6
Well, unless your dad is paying for it… I’d say invite who you want but I’d keep it limited to immeadiate family and bridal party, oh and sometimes your officiant if you want too.
Post # 7
Thanks for the input!
@Bella Luna: It’s complicated. My dad isn’t paying for the rehearsal dinner, but he *is* paying for all of the rest of the wedding, so I feel like he does have some input here.
I think I’m going to have another chat w/ my parents about this. I’ll try my mom first this time. She can usually talk a little sense into my dad 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t think you need to invite all of your extended family members… if they aren’t directly involved with the wedding ceremony then what is the point of their presence?? They already get to celebrate with you the following day!!!
We’re having more of a weekend wedding: including a Welcome BBQ & a trip to a local attraction for all our wedding guests. Because of this, we’re only inviting our parents, siblings & their spouses, the officiant, the musicians & the bridal party. Everyone else will get their fix at the other weekend events. 🙂
Post # 9
Do what you want and what suits your wedding. We had so many out of town people coming, people who we don’t get to see often and miss, that we ended up doing a low key backyard event so we could invite more people. probalby 75/120 people who came to the wedding also came to the rehearsal. So it was a bit much but still nice to see everyone.