Post # 1
I am having a destination wedding in Delray Beach Florida – the thing is my FI’s mother has offered to pay for the rehearsal, but she does not seem to understand that it is customary to invite all that are in town when doing a destination wedding….
Destination brides – are you inviting all to your rehearsal dinner? Any cost saving advice?
Post # 3
If she is paying she decides. You could invite everyone else out for drinks after the dinner. Ask for the dinner to be earlier so there is time.
Post # 4
At the DW we attended, ALL the guests were invited, not just family/BP. In addition, given its lavishness and general awesomeness, I’m sure the price per head was NOT cheap at all. There’s always a possibility that not everyone will attend the RD? How much is the difference between what’s she’s willing to pay and the total cost including all guests?
Post # 5
We are having a DW. We didn’t want to invite everyone to dinner but we are having a welcome party after the RD that all guests are invited to – we’ll serve hors d’oeuvres and have cocktails. We knew we wanted the welcome party either way, so when FI’s parents offered to pay for the RD, we told them our plans and that we appreciated whatever contribution they’re comfortable with. They ended up being super generous and covering the whole thing.
Post # 6
We are having a destination wedding (Santa Rosa Beach, FL).
Everyone invited to the wedding will be invited to the rehearsal dinner. I don’t really like the “whoever pays makes the rules” situation because it’s your wedding. If you’d like to invite everyone (which I think you should at a destination wedding) then that’s what should happen. Maybe she doesn’t understand destination weddings or has never attended one? Have you discussed this with her?
I’ve been to two destination weddings. At both weddings, everyone was invited to the rehearsal dinner. One had a lavish rehearsal dinner (expensive!!) then other invited everyone to the grooms parents beach house & had a local BBQ company cater food to the beach house. Everyone brought lawn chairs and we all sat by the pool, drank, and got to know everyone (102 people attended that wedding so it wasn’t small by any means). It wasn’t super lavish but everyone was together and that’s what really mattered. The company was great, the food was to die for (who doesn’t love southern cooked BBQ??), and the alcoholic beverages were yummy as well.
Post # 7
@amandadeenn: Im having a destination Wedding as well! Instead of rocking the boat with your soon to be MIL I would let her do the Rehersal dinner as she has it planned, I have learned very early on in this process to pick your battles specially with my MIL. I would however throw a welcome party for all the guests, something simple. Since we are paying for the rehersal dinner, the wedding and pretty much all expenses we opted to do a beach bonfire welcome event with Hotdogs, beer and smores! Very Casual! Then we’ll have a rehersal dinner including the immediate family and bridal party. We found this was the best way to please all guest and still remain budget consicous.
@IUrebekah3RT: Hey I saw your getting married in June in same area I am! This is totally off subject but how in the world did you find a venue in June there?!?!? My original date was June 23 and I moved it as it seemed to always not be available at all the venues I visited. Most of them said June was their peak of tourism, so i moved me date for the venue I feel in love with…