- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Since I’m from New England and my fiance is from Texas, we decided to get married in a “neutral” location–our alma mater, where we met and fell in love. So although it’s not a traditional destination wedding location, it does mean that 90% of our guests will be flying in.
My future-in-laws feel like we have to follow the traditional etiquette and invite everyone coming from out of town to the rehearsal dinner, which I think is ridiculous–that would be like having two weddings! And then, do you not invite the 3 people who live in the town where the wedding is? I feel like this is a really antiquated rule–I’ve been an out of town guest for three weddings recently, and only went to the rehearsal dinner for the wedding where I was in the party.
I feel like I would rather that they chipped in more money towards the actual wedding (we already have had to make some budget-related compromises to our dream wedding) instead of spending thousands of dollars on the rehearsal, which is what it would probably cost if they invited all 100+ guests.
I also have a slightly more selfish reason for wanting to limit the guest list. For years I have envisioned a small, intimate wedding of only 30 or so guests. But it was really important to my fiance that we have all of our families there, so I gave in to having a much larger wedding than I wanted. It seems unfair that I can’t even have a rehearsal dinner that is of the size I wanted my original wedding!
So I come to you, hive. Have those of you who had (or are having) a destination wedding or a wedding with lots of out-of-town guests invited everyone to the rehearsal?