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I don't think I've ever heard of games at a rehearsal dinner, and I've read A LOT of bridal magazines and web sites.
There's so much going on both at the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner since this is the first time you'll have everyone together. It can get pretty chaotic. Plus, you'll have a lot on your mind since it is the night before your big day, afterall.
I'd recommend keeping it as simple as possible and let the families get to know each other. If FMIL is really insistent, maybe you can do a simple, "How Well Do You Know the Bride & Groom" quiz. Come up with a list of questions where the guests have to pick either you or FI like, "Who's more likely to cook dinner" and "Who more likely to have the color-coded closet".
Everyone can shout out their answers, and you and FI can each have two signs with your name and his name, and each of you raises the appropriate sign who you each feel is the answer to the question.
This is a good way to incorporate a game while keeping the focus on you two, everyone gets to know you a little better, but it's not too complicated. Good luck!
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Maybe she is confusing the RD with a type of shower. You generally play games at a shower - I have never been to a rehearsal dinner that had games.
I have played the kind of game SoCalBeachGirl is talking about - and it can be pretty fun. You might want to modify it to have people write down their answers if your RD venue is not shouting-appropriate. Another fun type of game (that I've played mostly at small holiday dinners for work, but that would suffice for an RD or shower) is to have a few people (you, FI, maybe your parents, brothers and sisters - works better if there are a few) write down three things about YOURSELF - two of which are true, and one if which is not. Then somebody reads each three items, and everybody guesses which item is not true for each person. This is a nice game if the point is for everyone to interact and learn about each other - focuses less on you - and can be reasonably played with twenty or so people all participating by writing down three items. More that that and I think it would get too long.
But - I think its totally up to you and also should depend on how formal you want your RD to be, and how many people are attending. We will have about 30 at ours - and so several tables for dinner although in a private room - and while it is not formal I would call it relaxed rather than casual. So not appropriate in my mind for party games.
I know! I've read just about everything there is to read and have NEVER heard of anything like this! I'm glad everyone else is as clueless about this as I am.
I don't think she is confused. She mentioned that one of her husband's nieces had a game at her rehearsal dinner. We had been discussing location and whether to invite out-of-towners and she said, "Well, I have a game to play. They played it at this other couple's rehearsal." I am completely opposed to it because I wanted the rehearsal to be a time for us to thank our family and friends and have informal toasts, etc. We are having a fairly large wedding reception and probably won't get to spend a lot of quality time with our closest friends and family. She is very stubborn and a bit bossy and I'm sure will do it whether or not I am okay with it. I'm not sure how to say I really don't want to play a game. I figured if I had an idea of what it was, then I could prepare myself. I don't really like these kinds of surprises. It could just be the how well do you know the bride and groom, but I would hope these people would know us! I mean, they are our closet friends. Haha.
Thanks, suzanno and SoCalBeachGirl, this just confirms that I do not want games. If anyone else knows what she might be talking about, has been to a rehearsal that something like this happened at, please tell me!
Are your FILs hosting the RD, or are you and your FI doing that? Either way, it should be sufficient for you to tell her that you're not comfortable with the idea and really don't think its appropriate. But especially if she's not hosting... Have your FI back you up on this!! Perhaps you can designate someone to sit next to her and quietly stop her if necessary.
And if you really don't want to play, prep one of your girlfriends to have a sudden ladies' room emergency when the game comes up. You can excuse yourself nicely, walk away, and stop in the bar on the way back...
Maybe you can get several friends in on the action, and every time it looks as if it might come up, someone can make a toast. Actually I totally love this idea. After six or seven toasts, even the most pushy FMIL should get the hint. And you will get to hear many wonderful things about you and FI, and your friends will have a great time doing it, and everybody will laugh about it for years to come. If you do it right, it doesn't necessarily even look rude 
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So my mother-in-law is visiting and mentioned games at the rehearsal dinner? Has anyone heard of this? I haven't and was hoping someone could fill me in?