(Closed) Rehearsal dinner guest list help?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

Even tho it’s become popular to do these days, I still think the rehearsal dinner should be limited to the Bridal Party and immediate families. Inviting so many extra people makes it more of a mini-reception, to me, and it becomes too much.

Have they given any indication of how much they’re willing to spend on it? That may be the key to figuring it all out, unless you’re willing to kick in money to cover the difference. I personally think 46 is way too many!

Post # 5
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe do a separate dinner with all your aunts and uncles?  My rehearsal dinner is just going to be the wedding party and their SOs, the officiant, the parents, and us.  ~17 people. 

Post # 6
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I understand what you’re going thru when it comes to a big family! However, I think to make things more mellow between u guys and his parents, it might be better to stick to the people that are going to be at the actual wedding rehearsal. I’m sure your aunts will understand if u explain to them about having too many people and his parents having a limited budget. Either that or u scrap the dates, but it seems like the more logical thing to do would be to just stick with the wedding party and people heavily involved in the proceedings. I don’t think any rehearsal dinner should be larger than 30 people, and I have 15 people in my wedding party! Oh! And of course, your parents should be invited too! 🙂 hope that helps!

Post # 7
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think maybe you should not include the dates or the 10 aunts/uncles

Post # 8
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

you might want to ask where they would like to host the dinner and what they envision.  I’m not even sure what restaurant I could use where I live that could take a reservation of 50 people.  It would be crazy expensive to rent an entire restaurant! 

Post # 9
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We just invited wedding party + dates, readers + dates, immediate family, grandparents, and our pastor and his wife. I’d suggest not inviting your aunts and uncles if you’re trying to cut back. The wedding party’s dates should get to come to these events as a courtesy to your bridesmaids and groomsmen.

But really, if your Future In-Laws are upset about this, maybe your and your Fiance, or at least your Fiance, need to talk to them about what’s wrong and what you can do to make it better. If that means cutting back, then I’d go ahead and cut the aunts and uncles.

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