Post # 1
Hi Ladies, I feel awful to say this but is a rehearsal dinner really necessary?? Financially its something that my Fiance is not sure how to fit in the budget. We have a bridal party of 12, 4 flower girls and 1 ring bearer, 2 hostesses, 2 ushers, 2 mothers and us that we have to feed. A total of 25 people. Thats like anoter mini wedding. Most of the groomsman can’t get off work early so our rehearsal has to start at 7pm. By the time we eat and get settled for the night it will be rather late. And the BM’s and I have to be at the hair salon at 6am. (wedding is at 2pm) Its a good thing the makeup artist is coming to the salon. (we will have the entire salon to ourselves)
I’d hate to have to do a pizza party in our church hall for the dinner. I feel like it is being rather cheap. I am going to have pastries and drinks for the ladies at the salon the morning of.
My friends have offered to cook but I dont want them to do that extra work. I really don’t know what else to do. I’m looking forward to see what other brides are doing and to get some suggestions.
Post # 3
I am going to do the rehearsal dinner even with a tight budget. I think its really what you are ok with doing. For me the ones coming to the rehearsal are driving 30 min. or more on a friday evening to rehearse. I also know they work and will most likely not have time to eat before so I kind of feel obligated to feed them something. We are doing a southern BBQ themed dinner at my house.
Post # 4
I’m so glad you replied. I didnt even consider that with most coming straight from work, they probably will not have time to eat. Well, I will have to figure out something because I really feel obligated now. Thanks for the response.
Post # 5
I’m not. I am in a simliar situation as you. But honestly nothing is wrong with a pizza or Backyard BBQ. I think if you just have to do one, make it more fun than formal, that way it wont be so expensive. I just decided no to do one at all.
Post # 6
To be honest, I don’t think a rehearsal dinner is absolutely necessary, but if you’d like to do one then choose something you’re comfortable with.
For example, we have a friend who was a self-made millionaire at 21yrs old (that lucky/hard-working ba$tard!!! lol). He got married a few years ago and they could’ve spent a tonnn of money on the wedding, but they had a very, very simple and modest wedding with their closest family and friends. For their rehearsal dinner they had Panda Express at their house…. no joke. And everyone loved it because so many people are used to and enjoy food like that, ya know? So you can really do whatever you want, or nothing at all 🙂
We’re doing a rehearsal dinner on a small budget (we wouldn’t be doing one at all, but bridesmaids’ mom’s bf is a caterer and gave us a whopping discount, convenient!!).
Post # 7
@indyJEEP: I think we may have to go with a fun, simple take out order. I would’ve never thought about Panda Expresss! I’m definately going to talk with my Fiance and we will put our heads together and get creative.
Thanks for the feedback ladies. (I just noticed that all of you are on the West coast and I’m on the East— its 2:40 am here and I better turn in. the wedding planning puts me in a zone and I loose track of time. lol)
Post # 8
I’m not even paying for a sit down dinner at my wedding, so I’m certainly not having a fancy rehearsal dinner XD I may have a normal dinner/potluck/cake and coffee at my house or something, but no resteraunt
Post # 9
Do whatever you feel comfortable with. It would be nice to feed everyone, but it certainly does not need to be anything fancy.
We are strongly considering pizzas from our favorite Italian restaurant in our hometown (near where we are getting married) and wine/beer at someone’s house. Our wedding is so formal and long due to the time of our ceremony and the wedding being on New Year’s Eve, that we figured it would be best for everyone to keep it fun and more casual to gear up for the big day ahead. All of our friends and family involved in the rehearsal would enjoy it, so why not?
Post # 10
We didn’t really do a traditional rehearsal dinner. We just took whoever wanted to go to Olive Garden. lol We did end up paying for it… but it was just his family and us.