Post # 1
My dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner and he needs a head count for the people coming to the rehearsal dinner… and I need HELP to figure out who needs to be there! I don’t want a big crazy thing… but everything in this wedding seems to be going that way. Lol.
So here’s who I’m THINKING of inviting… and I’m not sure if this is all kosher, so please any advice is welcome!
Bridal party (of course!)
S/N: his younger sister wants to bring a date, which would be fine… except I’ve been given to understand it’s just her friend. Like not even a boy… she just wants to bring a friend to hang out with. I feel like this isn’t appropriate. Thoughts?
Officiant (do I have to invite wife and family too? There’s 5 of them total, which I feel like is a ton)
Readers (same question about family as with the officiant)
Is there anyone I’m missing?
Post # 3
We are inviting
aunts/uncles since most will be OOT but still on the fence about this one really.
bridal party with their guests
special OOT guest (we have a few traveling internationally)
not inviting officiant since our rehersal isn’t until the morning
How old is his sister? I generally think it’s fine for her to bring a friend – 1 person isn’t going to make or break it.
Post # 4
I would put the veto on the sister bringing a friend. There will be plenty of family there for her to talk to.
For the officiant, I don’t see inviting him to the dinner as neccesary but if you do, I would think just his wife would be fine (not the kids, unless you are friends with the family, then maybe. but even then, probably not)
Readers- same deal, if they are married then I guess you could.
Some people invite any out of town guests that will be in town, but I vote no for that (I think that is how things get really big). But other than that, I think you included everyone!
Post # 5
Lol, my entire family is from Canada so inviting even just the international guests would be a mess. Probably 85% of our guest list is OOT. I appreciate the input on the family of the officiant and the readers especially 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Both Sets of Parents
Siblings and SOs (the guys are ushers)
Wedding Party and SOs
Mistress of Ceremonies and SO
Officiant and SO
Ours is 22 people and that seems like SO MANY!
Post # 7
Wedding Party & dates (which included siblings)
Grandparents (and my aunt/uncle who drove my grandma)
Officiant & wife
A VIP couple (helped set up the engagement and helped me with wedding DIY)
That was it; however, after the dinner, we had a backyard campfire for any guests who were in town that night, which was fun!
Post # 8
we had 4 bridesmaids 2 grooms men( 2 had to work) his mom, her two sisters, my parents, my older sister, our three kids the officent and wife and the pianoist and husband father in law and fil gf and father in laws best friend…
23 people total… officent and pianoist are really close to the fil and to husband me. we would have had more but some out of town guests missed their flights and had food poisioning.
Post # 9
- bridal party + dates
- readers + their families
- OOT guests who will be arriving the night before
We’re expecting about 60 people. We probably won’t do an official rehearsal so we won’t be inviting the officiant.
Post # 10
I feel your pain. We are at about 50 people right now!! I’d say no to the sister’s friend… really that’s just excessive… if she’s too young to sit nicely at the table with the adults bring some toys, of course it sounds like she’s plenty old enough so I’d make her/her parents deal with it. Is your officient/ceremony religious? If so I think it’s a good idea to invite them but if they’re not than I don’t think you need to invite them. Here’s who we’re inviting:
Bridal party and thier guests
Four flower girls and their parents and siblings (many of the siblings overlap in other positions too)
Singer (an Aunt) & Hubby
God parents who will also be readers
Alter boys (also flower girl siblings)
There is also only one Aunt who is not included of those on that side of the family so we’ll be including them as well (only 3 people)
Post # 11
Bridal party (most were married to the groomsmen anywa).
My oot family and friends
All family in the wedding and anyone partaking in the wedding (readers, program basket attendant, rose petals basket attendant).
Cousin who was my day of helper
We had well over 40 people and my mother and stepdad did the food. It was so GOOD!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
We are inviting BP (and their families), parents/grandparents, officiant (not sure about wife; I don’t even know if he’s married). I think that’s it.
Post # 13
I think if you invite the officiant, you should invite his SO.
We started with
- the wedding party & their SOs
- the immediate families and grandparents
- the officiants (2) and their SOs
- the musician (friend) and his SO
But I wanted to add aunts and uncles and cousins.
Then I wanted to add out-of-town relatives and friends.
That was alost everyone. So we just decided to invite everyone and call it a welcome dinner. It’s eay to get big.