Post # 1
Is it really important to have a rehearsal dinner? I am all for it and would love to have one originally. But it has gotten to the point that I am having trouble getting people to RSVP for the wedding including the bestman. I am even planning my own bachelorette and I was asked by my MOH/sister if I would like to host my wedding shower because she does not have the time.
We are less than two months from the wedding, and I am struggling to plan all of it. I am a very organized person but I am turned off by many things that had taken place leading up to this wedding.
SO, I guess what I was wondering about is if there are 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, my mother who will be walking me down the aisle and two flowers girls. Plus the parents of the groom of course. If we are such a small group, how critical is it for us to rehearse?
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to have a rehearsal dinner
Post # 4
@worriedconfusedbride: I didn’t have a rehearsal, but I still hosted a dinner because my guests were from other states. Everything went fine during our ceremony, but ours was pretty short and really straightforward. My guests loved coming to the dinner the night before because it gave everyone a chance to mingle and get to know each other (we had about 50 guests).
Post # 5
If you have a rehearsal you should host a rehearsal dinner. With that being said, I don’t think you NEED to have a rehearsal at all.
Post # 6
Well typically the groom’s family pays and organizes the rehearsal dinner, so maybe check with them to make sure they aren’t doing anything. If you are having a rehearsal I think it would be nice for everyone to have a dinner afterwards. It doesn’t have to be formal or anything, just out to a restaurant would be nice. Many people also invite out of town guests to their rehearsal dinner, and grandparents/close family. No, you do not have to have one. I also wouldn’t throw you’re own shower/bachelorette party.
Post # 7
@MrsN14: + 1
you should not be hosting your own shower or bach party.
Post # 8
@MrsN14: I have already started informing people about it including the target day just so they can make any necessary arrangement. and I also know when we say rehearsal it comes with dinner or something afterwards. And no they do not have anything planned, my mother was going to cover the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner expenses. I was wondering if it’s at all important or else I would rather just cancel
Post # 9
We are having a cook out in our backyard for the rehersal dinner. Nothing fancy, just a fun and intimate time for the whole family 🙂 We are also have a small and simple wedding and this just made more sense than a big fancy dinner. Plus we wanted to save money for our honeymoon, small wedding = KICK ASS honeymoon!
Post # 10
We are required to have a rehearsal for our Catholic church. We haven’t planned anything as far as dinner yet.
Post # 11
@worriedconfusedbride: Aww. Pretty sad you are having such an issue and might be possible handling your own bachelorette party and shower! :/ I could undestand one if you were the kind of bride who likes to orchestrate party events like a batch party, but both? Your own shower!! I’m sorry you aren’t getting that much support in those areas 🙁 I don’t think a rehearsal is required. What does your FI feel? It’s nice to have especially if you keep it casual or your mother really wants to do it.