Rehearsal dinner invitation

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3237 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just tell her that you found a really cute invitation design that you love and want to use. If she still says that she doesn’t need them I would just say something like “Oh, well I can just get them ready for you and send them out if that’s okay!”.

Post # 4
4867 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@vanessa7:  Not really, since you’re not the host. I guess you could offer to pay for invites, but you rsk offending your FMIL since you’re basically telling her that her way isn;t good enough for you. And if it makes you feel any better, I have literally NEVER seen invitations for a rehersal dinner. I don’t know a single person who has used them.

Post # 6
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@vanessa7:  I would just tell her you prefer to send out invitations – then people have the time, place, date, etc. I think there is too much room for miscommuncation with just inviting people word of mouth – I have actually never heard of there being no invitations for the reherasal dinner.

Post # 7
193 posts
Blushing bee

I have found that invitations for the rehearsal dinner have become more common. Neither my brother or sister had invites for their rehearsal dinners. I wanted them since we had a destination wedding so every one who was invited to the wedding came to the  rehearsal dinner. Depending on how fancy the invite is will help guests dress up I think. We went for a casual bbq route and people dressed casual.

Post # 8
4867 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@vanessa7:  That is annoying (and unusual) that you had to do all of the work. In that case I can see why you’d feel like it’s okay to send out invites if you want to, even if she doesn’t think it’s necessary. I’d probably tell a little white lie and say that you had already ordered invites before you two talked, and that you checked after your conversation to see if you could cancel them but since you can’t they mgiht as well get used. Or you can always just say it’s going to be more formal and you’re dressing up a bit when you’re telling people the location and everything.

Post # 9
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My friend did a really cutely styled postcard for her rehearsal dinner invite. That might be a nice compromise. And inexpensive, especially if you just go with something you design and have it done on vistaprint, etc.

Post # 11
39 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yikes, that’s no fun. I can sympathize a bit. FILs haven’t said anything about a rehearsal dinner AT ALL, so I’m not even sure what’s going to happen there. I’ve mentioned it to FI and he keeps saying he’ll talk to them, but apparently hasn’t had a chance. I know there’s still some time, but the fact that there’s been absolutely no mention of it whatsoever has left me anxious. At what point should I just step in and start planning? Is it considered bed ettiquette to host it yourself?


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