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Are you only inviting wedding party members? If so, I think you can just invite them by calling or email. If you're inviting others, such as OOT guests, I would go buy some invites tomorrow and have them in the mail by Monday at the latest. You might not get as many people as you would have with more notice, but the people who were coming will come. As for your MIL, just ignore her. She doesn't want to be involved, so don't make her. Just make sure they know where to send the bill.
Our wedding is August 9th and our rehearsal is August 8th -- we are planning on sending out our rehearsal dinner invites next, week so I don't think you are that far behind. Most people who need to be there should already know anyway, afterall they have to go to the rehearsal! I would do the invites for her and send her the bill!
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Yeah, everyone invited should already expect the invite. You could do an evite or something. I would be more concerned with the restaurant getting the contract - aren't they able to rent out the space to someone else if they don't have the contract?
Dreambml-The venue has a deposit so we still have the spot, but they requested the contract to be signed and back by the 1 month prior mark. You're right I'm more worried about the contract as the guests (minus my two out of town guests) already are aware of the date.
Calioteach - I love your idea of getting invites and sending her the bill but I don't think I'm gutsy enough but great thinking!! You're just my style!
She's pulling a nice little passive-aggressive move on you here. I firmly believe that in the case of in-laws, it is your spouse's responsibility to handle the issues. So my advice would be to have your fiance tell her (not you) that if the invites are not mailed by Friday, the two of you will be sending some yourselves. Then have him invite her to lunch and swing by the rehearsal dinner venue to sign the contract. Two can play the passive-aggressive game.
We just invited wedding party and spouses/dates and a few other select people, and I just emailed/called people. Put the responsibility of deaing with your FMIL with your fiance and stay out of it. She can't get to you if you don't let her.
I like CarolineG's idea -- have your fh give his mom a deadline (this Saturday) and tell her if she doesn't make it you and your fh will be sending out the invites yourself. OF course, this isn't how I would do it, but you already said you would do it my way :-)
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I totally agree with the fact that it's important the your FI deal with his mom. I have first hand experience in a past relationship of being the one to break bad news and it always looked like I was the one making the decisions they didn't like. So they really resented me. If it looks like she's not going to send them out herself, I'd just put together a cute digital invitation and save it as a pdf, and email it out to everyone as an attachement. Act like that was the plan all along. Good luck!
I think Caroline G's idea is good. It should be the FI that handles his mother not you.
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Our wedding is August 8th and our rehearsal is August 7th. I have the ever so popular type of FMIL that feels as if she's losing her son and resents me and everything wedding.
Throughout our year engagement my FILs have stressed how thankful they are to have married their daughters and not have responsibilty in this wedding. They did however vow to take charge of the Rehearsal dinner.
They have been extremely unresponsive in all things wedding and I even had to pick the Rehearsal venue, deal with the coordinating of it and literally hand FMIL the form to sign and send back for the deposit as well as email her the contract to sign.
I spoke with the venue today and they have yet to recieve the contract signed. I go to my honey and let him know his mom has yet to do this and he says "oh yah, I forgot to tell you, when speaking to her today, I asked her where the rehearsal invites were" (she had promised to have them out a month in advance and I've been patiently waiting to recieve the one thing she was handling in the mail) Well she forgot to do them too.
What do I do? Do I send a mass email to our wedding party with the logisitics and apologize say I thought they were being sent? Do I make them last minute even though it's only 3 weeks away? Do I confront her? I feel like if I confront her, everythign I've bottled up inside for this last year will just fly out my mouth. But I'm so angry right now I can't even think straight.
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