Post # 1
So what is the etiquette on who should be invited to the Rehearsal dinner? My FI’s family is kindly throwing it, so not sure I even get much say. As of now, I would like to just invite those in the party, the officiant and out of town family. My FI thought all out of town guests should be invited. The problem is the majority of his side is from out of town so I am starting to feel like the rehearsal will be a mini-wedding.
Post # 3
I think it’s typically family, bridal party, officiant and out of town guests who are already in town for the wedding. We had our rehearsal dinner the Sunday before our Saturday wedding, so no one was really in town yet… But that said, I’d say you can do whatever you’d like.
Post # 4
95% of our guests are OOT so we’re only doing bridal party/SO and close family like parents, grandparents, and 1 of FI’s uncle’s. Our siblings are in the bridal party so they’ll be there anyway.
I think it really depends on what you guys are comfortable with. If FI’s family is paying for it, you might want to ask how many people they are comfortable paying for.
Post # 5
98% of our guests are out of towners, so we’re keeping it just the wedding party and their guests, and grandparents and officiant.
Post # 6
good question! On my side of the family, a TON of people are invited to rehearsal dinners! OOTers who are there by the night before, bridal party, aunts, uncles, cousins…
But FI is used to just bridal party and their dates, our siblings, and our parents.
I think it could be whatever you want, but obviously, if the side who wants more people aren’t paying, they should be sensitive to that. My mom has offered to pay for her side of the family who are more extended or OOT if they attend.
Post # 7
The minimum is immediate family, bridal party, and any spouses or fiances.
Post # 8
I’ve been an OOT guest to a lot of weddings for both family and friends, but I’ve never been invited to a rehearsal dinner unless I was a member of the wedding party.
We’re using the same guides for ours. Immediate family, officiant and wedding party with their SOs only.
Post # 9
Agree with other Bees! Mine rehearsal dinner/rehearsal only includes those actually involved in the wedding. Bridal parties, parents, sibs, and maybe anyone who reads at the ceremony. 🙂
Post # 10
For our rehearsal dinner we invited everyone who was involved in the ceremony bridal party, readers, etc. and immediate family (almost all immediate family on my side had a role in the wedding). Since his parents held our rehearsal dinner they invite some family who flew in from out of town and DH’s aunts and uncles.
Post # 11
Thank you for all of your comments!! I really appreciate it and they really do help! We just weren’t sure what we shoul dbe doing and every site seems to basically say “it is up to the bride and groom.”
Thank you again!
Post # 12
I think its bridal party, close family and officiant. It is nice to also invite out of town guests since they are already there. However, if you are having a lot of those (OOT) the rehearsal might turn into a really big party!