Post # 1
Hi there ladies! 🙂
I’m curious if anyone knows the proper way, or if there even is a proper way, to invite our guests who aren’t invited to the Rehearsal Dinner to cocktails afterwards.
My fiancee and I have rented out the top floor of one of our favorite restaurants and want to treats our guests who arrive in town on Friday to enjoy some drinks and jazz music for a few hours after the dinner is over?
Should we send 2 seperate invites?
If so, do those individuals who are invited to dinner need to receive both invites?
Please help! 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s any set proper way in this case.
I would do two separate invites. The one for the cocktails only to the non-RD guests. The cocktails can be included on the RD invites or extended during the dinner itself. Sounds like fun!! Hope this helps!
Post # 4
If you’re already making two invites, I would have the one that is inviting your guests to the rehearsal dinner include both dinner, and mention the drinks. Something along the lines of "Please join us for our rehearsal dinner at [place] on [date] at [time]. Also, be sure to stick around afterwards for drinks and jazz music.
And then, create a separate invite for everyone that says "Please join the bride & groom to be for drinks & music at [place] on [date] at [time- this should be maybe 2 hours after your other invitation, so that you can be sure dinner is over before any of these guests arrive].
Just keep in mind that if guests get a formal invite for drinks & jazz music, they might expect you to pick up the tab for all of the drinks. If you aren’t planning on picking up the cost of the drinks, then you will need to officially shut down the bar at a certain time (so perhaps your rehearsal dinner invite should say, Join us from 6-8 pm) so that all of your guests realize that you are only hosting the event from 6-8 pm, and everything else is up to them. If you aren’t picking up the tab for all of the drinks, then you might not want to send out a formal invite to everyone about drinks- maybe just spread the word that the bride and groom will be at a certain location and everyone is welcome to join up with them.
Post # 5
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I’ve usually seen it done with two separate invites — wedding and rehearsal dinner, that is. Your situation sounds a bit more unique; I might suggest two different RD invites — one to people invited to the dinner and cocktails, and one just for the cocktail invitees. But, there’s no absolutely correct way to do it. So good luck!