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posted 1 year ago in Paper
  • poll: Should we send RD invites and who pays for them?
    Yes! You need to send RD invites and FMIL should pay since she's paying for RD. : (5 votes)
    23 %
    Yes! You need to send RD invites and should pay for them if FMIL hasn't offered : (8 votes)
    36 %
    No! you do not need to send RD invites : (9 votes)
    41 %
    Other (see below) : (0 votes)
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    Busy bee
    mizrunzou    June 26, 2010   Kansas City, MO

    My FIs family is paying for the RD.  My question is about invites, when I bring it up to FI, he seems to think they are not necessary and his FMIL doesn't seem to intend on sending them.  I was going to let it go, but tonight I sent my sister a pic of a project I was working on (cootie catchers for our cocktail hour) and she asked if they were our RD invites...so it got me thinking that we DO need to send RD invites..

    So, I guess I have two questions:

    1)  Do you need to send RD invites

    2) If FIs family is paying for RD itself, who pays for and designs RD invite?

     
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    Bee Keeper
    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    You don't need rehearsal dinner invites.

    I did them because I found THE cutest template EVER and couldn't help myself. I asked my MIL and she said to knock myself out. I put her RSVP info on them and printed them off myself. I found the cutest poem ever....the DIY part of me took over

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I have never received one for a rehearsal dinner.  I did get an evite once and the other ones have been solely word of mouth.  I think that since it's just your bridal parties and immediate family, who you probably communicate with a lot, there's no need for print invites.

     
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    Busy bee
    mizrunzou    June 26, 2010   Kansas City, MO

    Le' Sigh.  I feel so much better :)  I defintely didn't want to press the subject OR pay for them :)

     
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    Busy bee
    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    i love paper. all things paper.  i sent invitations to a mothers day brunch last year...to my mom and sisters, they each got one, even though they were all living at the same house.  again, i love paper.

    i would do invitations because i think it sets the tone for the event, plus they're fun to send and even more fun to recieve.

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I've received a RD invite before & I totally agree with Clair that it sets the tone of the event! However, they aren't necessary because everyone involved with the wedding knows they'll be attending regardless. I think it's a nice treat & also essential if you are inviting OOT guests to the RD!

    I voted to send the invites, but that you should pay for them... only because your FMIL probably doesn't feel they're necessary & she hasn't brought it up! This could be your contribution to the evening. :)

     
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    cpgirl2000    April 25, 2010  

    If you are having an elaborate RD then yes.  We're having about 20+ guests who are all party of emails and phone calls and 1/2 are family so it's really not necessary for us. 

     
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    Buzzing bee
    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    invites set the tone! i think they are necessary, but dunno if FIL will be sending them out - they asked for email addresses (to which i balked at silently) so im guessing they are doing an evite of sorts.

    while i think they are proper and necessary since it is a hosted event and its a more formal wedding, this specific event (RD) isnt mine to plan, so its up to them to do what they want. so i am staying out of it! :)

     
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    Helper bee
    nevjcu    July 10, 2010  

    You could always do an Evite for free!

     
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    FMILady    June 6, 2010   Texas

    I thought about not doing them, but I found some that were themed and ordered them online.  I found some great blank stock invitations at Target though, that would make a good invitation... used those for the shower.

     

     

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