Post # 1
Okay just wondering from everyone who has been though it- is a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner necessary? I’m not asking from a budget perspective, but more from an etiquette/logistics perspective. This would mean some people would have to take off work/leave work early on Friday, and I don’t want to ask more of the people who are already doing so much for me.
Some background: My ceremony is very short, and the venue is not complicated. My bridal party will literally walk in a straight line, turn in their respective directions and stand there. Also, our venue allows us to be there about 2 hours before the ceremony starts, so I can show them what everything looks like before hand quickly.
I’m thinking no? haha, but I’m also not so good with this etiquette thing!
(as a side note, if I do a rehearsal on Friday, I will have a rehearsal dinner that evening)
Post # 3
A rehersal dinner is absolutely not necessary.
A rehersal is probably something you want to consider. Even logical, educated, adult human beings can truly screw up walking in a straight line and standing there. Particularly if they haven’t been in a bridal party before.
How fast/slow do they walk? In what order do they enter? How much time do they wait in between the person/couple before them? Once they get up there where do they stand? Does the maid of honor know to hold your bouquet? Do they know the order of the recessional?
It should only take 20-30 minutes but I think that you’re going to have bigger and better things to do on your wedding day than help people figure that out.
Post # 4
Nope, we aren’t doing one. We are having our rehearsal at 7pm so people can eat first.
Post # 5
Technically, a “Rehearsal Dinner” is to feed the people doing you the favor of coming to your rehearsal.
So, if you don’t have a rehearsal, then you don’t need a rehearsal dinner. And you’re not required to have a rehearsal, of course!
However, if you do have a rehearsal, then you’re obligated to host those people in some manner. It does not have to be fancy – ordering pizza is more than fine. But to ask people to take the time to practice your big day and *not* offer them even the most minimal hospitality is rude.
Post # 6
Thanks for the imput everyone- I’m definitely a more logical person so if someone tells me, walk straight, smile and then stand here… I’ll do it. My question was more surrounding the need for rehearsal at all – sorry if that was confusing. @Sephiroth: If i plan a rehearsal, i fully plan on having a dinner for everyone afterwards.
If you have omitted the rehearsal / rehearsal dinner did you regret it?
Post # 7
@beeintraining: thanks for the ideas! do you think if i just provide this info to them it will be enough?? what is your experience?
Post # 8
@jasonkatie2014: logistically speaking the rehersal dinner is more of a thank you for your parents and bridal party specifically… typically it would just be a really small intimate gathering and can be as casual as a BBQ in your backyard to as fancy as a 5 course sit down meal at a luxurious resteraunt… lots of people also utilize a rehersal dinner to give gifts of thank to their bridal party and parents as well…
it by all means isnt neccessary though! more of a relax and enjoy that everything is done without any of the extra stress or activity that the wedding day brings…
Post # 9
@jasonkatie2014: It all depends on your bridal party and you as a bride. If you don’t get a chance (something happens in the schedule that prevents you from going over things before the ceremony) — will that cause you more stress? If no, then pass on the rehersal.
Are your bridal party good with reading (and responding) to e-mails you send them? Have some of them been in a bridal party before to show them the ropes (eg. making sure all girls are holding flowers at belly button height for pictures)? Do you have faith in either your best man/maid of honor to take charge, print out how you want everyone lined up, and make sure people are where they are supposed to be? If yes, then pass on the rehersal.