Post # 1
I am looking for advice on our rehearsal dinner, and am not sure what to do. Long story short we are getting married at a pretty upscale resort in a town where there aren’t any restaurants that are within good distance to hold the rehearsal dinner. So we have decided to have it at the hotel since that is really our only option. My question to everyone is since our wedding is considered a destination wedding (the resort is about 2-5 hours away for everyone to travel) who do we invite to the rehearsal dinner? I know technically it’s all “out of town” guests, but EVERYONE is an out of town guest! My FMIL and FFIL are fantastic and are paying for the rehearsal dinner and they don’t have alot of $$ so I am wondering is it ok to invite only people who are IN the wedding to the rehearsal dinner ie: Groomsmen and guest, Bridesmaids and guest, Our Reverand, us and parents? Our wedding party alone is 32 people if you include their husbands and wives!
WWYD? Thank you!
Post # 3
you don’t have to invite OOT guests if you can’t afford it. maybe you could have a casual get together for everyone after the rehearsal dinner, like just order pizza?
Post # 4
I think you should have only the wedding party at the dinner, and then have a Welcome Party for all the guests afterwards. Just have everyone meet in the bar and mingle. If you can pay for drinks great, if not – it’s no biggie.
Post # 5
Stick to your wedding party- you don’t need to have two weddings in a row!
Post # 6
I’d ask your FMIL what she wants to do. Mine told me immediately that everyone would be invited to the RD (ours is a semi-destination too).
Post # 7
If you invite everyone, it becomes a second reception, especially if they all come in the night before. It’s nice if you can invite them, but it isn’t mandatory.
I’d have the RD with the bridal party and meet everyone else later on.
Post # 8
I’m having a destination wedding and for my rehersal dinner its only going to be BP and parents. I agree with PP you don’t want everyone at your rehersal dinner or it will be like a second reception. I thought usually only BP goes to rehersal dinners anyways.
Post # 9
Just a small group, otherwise it will get out of control and you’ll feel like you’re at your reception. Other guests should be mature enough to organise themselves for dinner. Don’t worry about it!
Post # 10
We had the same problem..it’s a bit tricky.. we scaled down the Rehearsal dinner to a more casual pizza and pasta event and thus were able to include more guests. Then we invited everyone to meet us at a pub nearby after the dinner so we got to visit with lots of our guests.. it was the perfect solution . everyone had a great time and paid their own way at the bar. We did the rehearsal dinner on the early side around 6, so we met everyone by 8.30.. I found some great advice and creative , thrifty ideas for planning the rehearsal dinner in this article: http://www.celebrationideasonline.com/rehearsal-dinner-ideas.html the diy centerpieces were the talk of the night!
Post # 11
Ours is also destination (meaning everyone is out-of-town), but in a town with tons of restaurants. We’re having bridal party and close family at the rehearsal dinner, then having a cocktail party afterwards at the same restaurant for all guests. That way, other people can explore the town and have dinner with each other, then stop by to drink and mingle. I’m a little excited about the “second reception” thing, because we’ll get more chances to talk to everyone and hopefully not spend the whole wedding running around to greet people. I’d try to do something like that.
Post # 12
@Meagan Lindsay: I would just invite the people you specified. I don’t think it’s necessary to invite all the out of town guests. Rehearsal to me is about being with the people that have the most importance in the wedding.