Rehearsal Dinner Necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@otto2008:  its not neccesary but people use it as a way to talk before the big day. We are using ours as the first time our families will meet and are having all the guests there for welcome cocktails and dinner. Our parents/families get to meet and mingle which will be great but also hope it makes it easier to just chat among everyone on the wedding day. Depending on how formal and how much etiquette you follow normally out of town guests are invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@otto2008:  The rehearsal dinner has traditionally been the last opportunity to ensure that both families have met before the wedding, if they haven’t already. More importantly, it is an opportunity for the bride and groom to thank the wedding party for their support and participation.Often this is the time that you present the wedding party with their gifts.

Out of town guests are not “normally” invited to the rehearsal dinner. They can be, but it is not necessary. This is a fairly recent practice, but in many wedddings so many of the guests are out of towners, that the RD would turn into a huge reception on its’ own.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

No its not, if u dont want one, u dont have to =)

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Totally NOT necessary. Traditional, but not necessary.

We didn’t have one. A couple super traditional family members and friends were like “OMGGGGG you have to have a rehearsal dinner!” but we didn’t see the point. We had our rehearsal on a Friday night, had plans to take our out of town guests into Philadelphia to sightsee all day on Saturday, and our ceremony was Sunday morning at 10:30, so we just nixed it. We did order a bunch of pizzas and got some beer and drinks for everyone back at our hotel room right after the rehearsal (we bought everything), and my husband held the party down while I went to get my nails done with my cousins. A low-key hangout was much more our style.  🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Saria213:  That sounds like the perfect idea! I have been feeling guilty about not doing a rehearsal dinner; Pizza and Beer is much more our style!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s a nice way to spend quality time with your wedding party and family before the wedding. Especially if some of them are travelling from out of town. Doesn’t need to be formal.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Honestly, if I was in a bridal party and had to go to a rehearsal around dinner time the night before and there wasn’t a dinner (seriously, even pizza), I would feel kind of taken advantage of.  It’s supposed to be a thank you to everyone who has helped out in preparing for the day.

But that’s my area.  It’s tradition, but even non-traditional people follow it.  Brides and grooms who don’t feed the people who help them are considered cheap and ungrateful generally.  But this may not be true in other areas/cultures.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

All a rehearsal dinner is, is dinner after the rehearsal. So “We did order a bunch of pizzas and got some beer and drinks for everyone back at our hotel room right after the rehearsal (we bought everything)” IS a rehearsal dinner. I think if you’re having a rehearsal, it would be rude not to feed the participants in one way or another.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are doing a very laid back “welcome dinner”. We are having quite a few out of town guests that will be traveling 2500+ miles.. we figured they’d like to just relax and have a meal on us.

It won’t be anything big, probably just a local pizza place or something.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@otto2008:  I wanted to do a rehersal dinner where we all get pizza and rent out the venue where we are getting married for 2 – 3 hours (it charges hourly.) and practice for the next day…but apparently my mother in law has different plans…grr.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It is not necessary at all. But it is traditional. Yes, folks just eat. But typically, it is just immediate family, the  wedding party and the officiants. Ours is being held at a Chinese buffet we both love. Cost will be $6.99 per person!

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

…wish I’d realized this before I posted a serious response, but this must be a joke post. The OP is suggesting that a rehearsal dinner is where people rehearse eating!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

We aren’t having a rehearsal so no rehearsal dinner. Bthese will probably ago out with the bridal party somewhere to relax 

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