- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2008
My fiance’s dad is throwing the rehearsal dinner for us (our wedding is February 29th). My fiance’s aunt (his dad’s sister) is offering to help with the dinner since my FFIL lives in Albuquerque, and we’re in Oklahoma.
My matron of honor is my fiance’s cousin, her mom is the aunt that’s helping. She sent an email to me and the other bridesmaids talking about the rehearsal dinner, how because she lives in the town where we are getting married, she is the one that will be doing all of the planning of the dinner and running the errands and getting everything ready for it.
Is it normal for the bride and groom to have zero input on the rehearsal dinner? We have no idea where we’re having it, or what the menu is, or how many people are coming. . . we have no idea what the guest list is, and there are a few of our friends that are coming from very far away that will be there that night that we want to come to the dinner, but no one ever asked us anything! Should we just be happy that someone is doing this for us and be grateful that we’re getting a rehearsal dinner at all, or should I speak up and ask to have some input on everything (especially the menu considering my mom has a severe-deathly-allergic food issues that need to be addressed)?
(A sidenote, probably a tacky, tacky sidenote, but – this aunt and MOH threw a wedding shower for us over a month ago that was, well. . . very lackluster and unenthusiastic. This dinner will be kicking off the wedding festivities, so I was hoping that it would be nice. This is part of the reason why I want to be included in at least some of the planning. Is that mean also?)