- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
My threatening FMIL, who is opposed to our impending marriage but wants her fingers in every decision we make, has insisted she pay for the rehearsal dinner and asked where we’d like to have it.
My fiance, both our families & I love (LOVE LOVE) Mexican food, and there is a fun, cheap, and tasty Mexican restaurant within reasonable distance of our venue (a private residence). FI and I decided that’s the best place to have the dinner, and told her that.
Last week she called me and asked if she could host the rehearsal dinner at her mother’s house and have it catered. Oh, no. Not what we wanted at all.
1) this house is hard to find, has no parking, and definitely no place for the 30+ people to sit together for dinner. We’d have guests having dinner on the floor and on couches. Blah.
2) FI’s family doesn’t drink alcohol, so they wouldn’t figure that into the catering. Not acceptable.
She says the reason is that FI’s dad is uncomfortable around a lot of people and doesn’t want to have it in a restaurant. This throws me for two reasons:
1) He eats in the restaurant we want, I’ve had several meals with them there.
2) No matter where we have the event, there will be the same amount of people.
I’ve told FI that it’s his responsibility to straighten her out on this issue, but she only brings it up to me when he’s not around (and calling me at work, GRR). I want to tell her to forget it and we’ll find the money to host it ourselves (a total lie since we can’t afford it), but I think that would make her just as upset as trying to reach a compromise.
Basically, how do I deal with a person who doesn’t know the meaning of the word "compromise"?