Post # 1
Okay my mother in law said she wants to make dinner and i think it was a really sweet gesture of her but… i am sorry to say she is a terrible cook. she just guesses and experiments with everything and it basically never turns out good… Is there any nice ways to tell her I would rather her not unleash her experiments on my friends and family?
Post # 3
I am so sorry. I just had to laugh. I know it isn’t funny, but I can just imagine her trying so hard to make everything just perfect, and everyone else trying really hard to compliment her.
If I were you, I would suggest that although you appreciate her offer, you don’t want her to have to do so much work. Let her know that this is a special time for her too, and that if she wants to contribute, maybe she would want to contribute what she would have spent on the meal to a nice dinner at a restaurant instead.
Post # 4
Or perhaps have her do a trial run with just you and your FI and her and his immediate family. Then leave it up to them to be honest with her.
Post # 5
I agree with both PPs, try taking the “i want you to be able to relax before the wedding and cooking for the rehearsal dinner would just be too stressful for anyone!” route first. And if she disagrees, I think it would be better not to offend her and just allow her to do the cooking, maybe it’ll make for a really funny memory for everyone to look back on. But if she does do the cooking, definitely convince her to do a test run to “perfect” her menu beforehand. I always vote for keeping (future) MILs as content and placated as possible!
Post # 6
I would tell her that as much as we appreciated the offer, we wanted her to be free to enjoy the rehearsal and visit with the bridal party and any family who are attending.
I would ask my FI, her son,to have the discussion with his parents re whether they still wanted to host a rehearsal dinner. He should make it clear that you are open to a range of meals from casual bar-b -que to catered dinner.
Post # 7
OMGoodness!! This is HARD!!!!!!! But you’ve got some great suggeestions here!!
Post # 8
It is pretty funny though i’m not going to lie… i kinda laughed to myself when she told me. I will try these suggestions, they sound like good ones. i don’t know what she will say but i know she will probably be drinking which makes her cooking that much worse haha. I can see where it might be funny looking back but theres a 50% chance she will make people sick LOL