Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Historic Rosemont Manor
My FI and I have come across our first disagreement. Unfortunately, it’s about the rehearsal dinner venue, which seems a bit ridiculous to me considering our date isnt for another 13 months. The place we’re getting married is a B&B and has several different packages. The one we picked was a Saturday wedding with rooms in the B&B into Sunday. They also have one for all weekend, so we could have the rehearsal dinner there on Friday & have rooms Friday and Saturday night.
here’s the problem: I’m not sure I want the rehearsal dinner to be at our venue the night before. I always pictured our rehearsal dinner at some cute italian restaurant with a more casual atmospher. My FI is pushing to take the full weekend package and have the rehearsal dinner at our venue, which would include dinner from the same caterer who’s catering the wedding. We both feel strongly about it. Money isn’t an issue here, it’s strictly opinion about where to have the rehearsal. I’m concerned that the rehearsal dinner will be too fancy/be on par with the wedding. Our wedding will be elegant, so I don’t see the need to have an elegant rehearsal dinner.
I need your help… any suggestions would be lovely.
Post # 3
Can you talk to the cater to do something more casual–maybe a cookout? See if you can get a deal with the B&B to use the inn, but bring in a more casual caterer. Maybe a BBQ restaurant could so something.
Post # 4
Your situation is the same as mine, kind of in reverse….I’m the MOG, and my son and his fiance have booked a B & B from Thursday-Sunday. My husband & I will be hosting the rehersal dinner on Friday. The bride wants to have it on site, I’d rather have the bridal party go to the cute little town about 5 minutes away and eat at a restaurant, just to mix things up – since everyone will be eating dinner at the venue Saturday night…my thought is it’s their wedding and we will do whatever they want.
Post # 5
Oh ya I don’t like the idea of having it at the same venue.. because then all your guests have already seen the place, tasted the food.. it’ll lose the magic of the wedding day! We rented a room at a fun Tex Mex restaurant inside of the hotel most of our guests were staying at. I def feel like going casual is appropriate when having a formal wedding! Try explaining that you want the wedding day to be special and that you don’t want to give away everything at the rehearsal.. I hope he comes around! Is he wanting to have it there for convenience? Maybe try finding a very close, cute Italian place and bring that up!
Post # 6
@bridesmomma: You are a very considerate MOG. (Venting a little…but mine actually went to my *wedding* venue to change/add items to my menu and they aren’t even hosting! Ugh!)
Post # 7
@Bazingau: Ugh! You poor thing!!! I’m going to try to NOT be the MIL from hell! 🙂 My husband and I really wish they had picked another date as their wedding location tends to be very hot in August when they’re getting married…We keep telling each other to keep our mouths shut! (it’s hard! 😉 )
Post # 8
@MrsS_to_be: I was all for rehearsal dinner at our venue because I thought it would be convienient. The venue coordinator actually said he doesnt like that (and not to let his boss know he said it haha) because people will be eatimg the same food in the same setting as the wedding and it dilutes the experience. We are now looking in to resturaunts instead! Maybe present it that way to your FI?