Post # 1
My fiancé and I are starting to plan the rehearsal dinner and we’re getting kind of overwhelmed that we have one more thing to pay for. So, first of all, is it considered impolite to have the dinner at, say, his parents’ house?
If we do need to have it at a restaurant, I really want to limit the amount of people as much as possible. One of my bridesmaids is married, do I need to invite her husband? And our flower girl and ring bearer are brother and sister – is it ok to invite their mom along with them, but not their dad and toddler brother?
Thanks for any insight you can give me – we’re overbudget to the point that we might not take a honeymoon and I’m looking for any way to save a buck! Which reminds me, do I really need to send rehearsal dinner invitations?
Post # 3
I think it would be nice at a parent’s house – but informal is good as long as everyone knows.
It is definitely recommended that you invite bridal party’s significant others. If not, will the husband have something to do that night or is he from OOT and will be sitting at the hotel alone? I would probably invite the whole children’s family too.
Invites probably could be pretty inexpensive.
Post # 4
I would invite the whole famly (for FG and RB). It would be almost weird to not invite the husband & toddler, but that’s up to you. I would definitely invite the husband of your BM. Because the rehearsal dinner will be so small, you can just send e-vites or do personal invitations to it. No need to send out anything formal.
Post # 5
The rehearsal dinner is for all the people who have to show up at rehearsal, at a minimum. Basically your wedding party and your parents and anyone else who will be walking up the aisle or playing any part in the wedding – except your musicians and vendors.
Some people choose to invite grandparents and other close family members and their out-of-town guests, but that’s optional.
You don’t want your rehearsal dinner to end up being a “second wedding” so I like the idea of keeping it informal at your future-in-laws’ house. In that environment, you can relax and get ready for your big day to follow.
If you have gifts to give to your bridal party, the rehearsal dinner is a good time to do that. Also if you have any family members who feel compelled to give lengthy speaches, have them get it out of their system at the rehearsal dinner instead of cutting into your first dance time at the wedding!
Post # 6
Typically you invite your close family (mom, dad, siblings)
Then the wedding party and their spouses.
You do NOT need to invite family of your wedding party such as their parents.
Post # 7
I’ve never received a rehearsal dinner invite.. and we’ve been to quite a few of them! 🙂
I think having it at the house is a great idea! One of the nicest rehearsal dinners I ever went to was at a home! It’s much more laid back and comfortable. They had a pretty easy/inexpensive menu as well! We had Caesar Salad, Chicken Salad Sandwiches, fruit shish-ka-bobs, and cake balls. It was during the day.. so we had Mimosas, and the kids had oj.
What time is your rehearsal at? I’m sure the girls here will have some really great suggestions for inexpensive and easy menus!
Post # 8
You can do your rehersal dinner where ever you want. Basically it should be both set of parents, and wedding party. You can invite others if you wish. It can be informal to formal just your decision. For ours we tossed around just having a BBQ. As of right now it maybe just a pizza party. No one for ours expects a very formal dinner.
Post # 9
Thanks so much for all the idea and feedback! I really appreciate it.
Post # 10
You can def do it at the house.
I would invite significant others of the bridal party as well as both parents of the fg and rb.
You don’t need to send invites. Maybe do an evite if you worry about people being on time.