Post # 1
My aunt is marrying us and our ceremony is going to be pretty short/simple. There won’t be any difficult staging or kneeling/sitting. Just come from the back, stand in the front, and everybody says what they say. My aunt suggested we skip the rehearsal. (For the record my aunt is a pastor and has done lots of weddings). She said we’ll meet a few times before the wedding to iron out the wording and what we want, but there is really no need for everyone to get together to learn how to walk from back to front. Makes sense to me!
So the question is…. do we do a rehearsal dinner now? I mean we don’t HAVE to I guess since no one will be required to come in for a rehearsal… but if feels weird to me to not do anything the night before. I was thinking of just inviting the same people that would have been to the rehearsal out to dinner (immediate family of both + bridal party and dates) that we’d pay for (FIs fam has not offered to pay)… but what do I call it? lol. I guess I’m torn because we’re on a tight budget and that money could certainly go to something else. But it just feels awkward to me to not do anything the night before the wedding!
Has anyone else skipped the rehearsal? Did you do anything the night before the wedding? Also: we’re getting married in Feb in Ohio so a backyard bbq is not an option! 🙂
Post # 3
Could you call it a “welcome dinner”? I think it’s perfectly fine to host a party without an actual rehearsal!
Post # 4
We’re not doing a rehearsal either, as it’s just the two of us, a MOH, and a best man. Our officiant told us to just skip it and save the extra money that it would cost to have him down here the night before, which is what we were planning on anyway.
We are still going to do a dinner the night before – we’re just going to have it at our house since most of the family won’t have seen it yet and we’re probably going to do a taco bar. We figured we can either have it catered pretty cheaply, or we can just do the food ourselves without much hassle.
Post # 5
We’ll most likely be doing a short rehearsal the morning of. But the night before we’re getting together immediate family only for a nice dinner. We’re from different cities so it’s not often both families get together so I wanted to take the opportunity for both sides to have dinner together.
I mean you have to eat anyway!
Post # 6
@gerbera- right! it would feel kind of anticlimactic to be like so uh… night before the wedding… uh… what do you feel like for dinner? veggie burgers? yea ok i can cook those up…. lol
Post # 7
Hhaha. Exactly. Whp wants to work the grill the night before their wedding! OK. FI might want to but we won’t be home so that’s out.
We’ll most likely be reserving a private room/space or just ask them to section off a private area for us. Asian Fusion because wedding will probably be more FI side friendly so I wanted Asian food for the “night before dinner”.
But nothing fancy like we need to pay extra for the private space or anything. Just a big group of people going out to a celebratory dinner! 🙂
Post # 8
I would just have a relaxed, informal dinner. I don’t even know that you have to call it anything… other than a dinner. So no need to formal invites, you won’t be inviting too many guests, you can just tell your peeps where and when.
Post # 9
The title of this post caught my attention because we’re having an atypical “rehearsal dinner” in that it will be on the actual night of our wedding, and not involve a rehearsal of the ceremony (since it will have already taken place). We’re getting married with just immediate family and having dinner with them that night, which FI’s parents wanted to host in lieu of the traditional rehearsal the night before. A few weeks later we’re having a big reception for everyone.
I think you should definitely do a rehearsal or welcome dinner and invite families, bridal party, and whoever else you’d like. It’d be a nice way to celebrate and hopefully calm any pre-wedding jitters that may arise.
Plus, as you mentioned, who really wants to have a normal day, dinner, etc. the night before their wedding? Now you’ve got me thinking about what I should plan for the night before my wedding. 🙂