Post # 1
So I was talking to my mom yesterday and I brought up that my biological mom was going to host the rehearsal dinner. She looked at me and said, “Why? Why do we need to do a rehearsal and dinner for a short ceremony?” I didn’t know what to say. I was kind of angry. Mind you that we are not having a engagement party, bridal shower, or a lingerie shower either. My biological mom offered to host it for us, so I said YES! because that is one less thing I need to worry about and pay for.
What should I say back to “Why? Why do we need to do a rehearsal and dinner for a short ceremony?”
Which it wont be it will be 30min long
Post # 3
5 minutes or 60 minutes, your bridal party still needs to understand how your ceremony will flow, when they’ll be entering, who they’ll be entering with, where they’ll stand, etc. All weddings are different, and having the opportunity to prep everyone before the big day is important!
Post # 4
@figgnewton: I would tell her rehearsal is important, even for a small ceremony, and the rehearsal dinner is really a “thank you” to your wedding party. Not only that, it’s a nice time for everyone to gather before the ceremony and have some quality time (and take your mind off of waiting for the next day to get here!). I think that’s really nice of your biological mom, and great way for her to be included. You should ABSOLUTELY have the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
I agree with the prior poster. Wedding rehearsals are very important and should include everyone who is participating in your ceremony, including bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearer, musicians, singers, readers and, obviously, your officiant. And, if you are asking these family members, friends, and others to participate in the rehearsal, it is only polite as well as customary to offer to feed them (and their spouses, FIs, etc.) a meal afterward.
Post # 6
ohemmag There are alot of people involved. That’s why I wanted to do it.
VioletSky That’s what I thought rehearsal dinners were about…A big THANKS to the people helping put this wedding together. I wanted to thank everyone in a more personal matter rather than infront of everyone at the wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We didn’t have a rehearsal- our minister took five minutes the day of to go over the lineup with everyone, and everything went smoothly.
We did have a Rehearsal Dinner the night before at DH’s request, which was nice. It was a chance for people to meet who hadn’t (groomsmen knew which lady they were escorting), Fiance and I did speeches- it was just a nice evening.
Post # 9
Our ceremony will be short too (30 minutes or less) and we’re still doing a Rehearsal Dinner. Why does your mom care if she is not paying. Let your bio mom pay if she wants to and have fun.