Post # 1
hi bees, ok question for you…
i was invited to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner of my FI’s brother’s wedding..i’m not super close to them, so FI said that i could just go to the rehearsal about 30 min or so prior to it finishing so that I wouldn’t just be sitting there..i don’t really have a part in their wedding, so, do you think it would be rude if i just went at the tail end of the rehearsal and then to the dinner with them??? thanks bees!!
Post # 3
i don’t think it’s rude. my fi will be coming with me to my friend’s rehearsal and i’ve been thinking how stupid that is, he’ll just be sitting there. if i wasn’t making him drive me, i would do the same thing and have him come late too.
Post # 4
I don’t know…
its like you’re just showing up for food…but since its your FI’s brother…maybe he already said you could?
Post # 5
At our wedding we invited significant others of the members of our wedding party to the rehearsal dinner, and they met up with us at the location of the dinner. To be honest, I was glad they didn’t come to the rehearsal – I hate being the center of attention and would have felt even more awkward “practicing” the ceremony in front of people I barely know.
Post # 6
My Fi’s sister got married last year. I didn’t even go to the rehearsal. I met them at the restaurant.
Post # 7
Usually rehearsals aren’t more than 30 min anyway. I guess ours was about 45 minutes but that’s because we had a lot of europeans with us who don’t do rehearsals and were fascinated.
Post # 8
I was going to suggest you just meeting them at the rehearsal dinner and skipping the rehearsal altogether. I don’t think it would be rude in the least since you aren’t a member of the wedding party.
Post # 9
As a significant other of someone in the wedding party who is invited to the RD as a date, I don’t think there is anything wrong with not going to the actual rehearsal. There’s absolutely no point in you being there anyway.
Post # 10
I don’t think there is any reason for you to be at the rehearsal. If you aren’t part of the wedding party, but have been invited, you could just go to dinner and skip the whole rehearsal IMO.
Post # 11
Not rude at all! If you have no role in the wedding, there’s no reason why you should be at the rehearsal. My FI skipped the rehearsal for my friend’s wedding in which I was MOH just two weeks ago. 🙂
Post # 12
People dont usually go to the rehearsal unless they are in the wedding. At least from my experience. Personally at my own wedding rehearsal I wouldnt want a bunch of people there that arent in the wedding party. I dont think it is rude at all to just go to the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 13
Unless there’s something specific that you can help with, probably best to skip the rehearsal. People will be running around and freaking out over last minute details, and it’s unlikely that they’ll notice.
You can always call the bride or FI’s brother to be sure it won’t bother them if it really makes you nervous.
Post # 14
I recommend asking your FMIL, and find out how she feels about it. I went to FSIL’s rehearsal and dinner earlier this year and didn’t know many in the wedding party. I took pictures of them rehearsing and had a good time. They were happy that someone snapped a few photos for them.
Post # 15
nah I dont think its rude. I invited a groomsman’s girlfriend to teh rehearsal and dinner even though she wasnt in the wedding. she came to the rehearsal and took some photos for us.
Post # 16
Yeah, unless they want you there for a specific reason (take pictures, etc.), then you’re not at all obligated or expected to sit at the actual rehearsal. All the SOs that were invited to our rehearsal dinner just met us at the restaurant.