(Closed) Rehearsal Drama!!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: In this senario would you be offended?
    no, i totally understand, not a HUGE deal.. : (12 votes)
    46 %
    yes, i wouldn't be ok with it.. : (14 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If she is pulling a stunt like this she might be jealous your wedding is first. You mentioned above that she is engaged. Either try and reconcile and talk things out and explain that it isn’t an attack on her fiance its just a way to keep the focus on the rehearsal. Maybe even send a note to her fiance thanking him for helping in the costs and letting him know why he was not invited. If its a huge idea decide if you want that drama brought at all to your wedding or if its worth having one more tagalong to your rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 4
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    In terms of why you’re keeping the rehearsal invite list so small – is it a financial thing or just because it’s a casual run-through of the wedding? If it’s financial, then they should understand. If it isn’t, maybe you should just suck it up and invite the significant others to minimize this drama. It’s really immature of her to be acting like this, though.

    Post # 6
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would try explaining to her again that it’s only the bridal party and you can’t help but invite his sister.  Then if she has a problem with it and still doesn’t want to come, just let her know it would mean a lot to you if she could be there, but if not there’s nothing you can do about it.

    I think you’re completely right to invite who you want.  Doesn’t she understand that no one else from your family is invited either??

    Good luck!!

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    If it’s just  quick lunch, why can’t your BIL come? I think it’s a little rude not to invite your own BIL. Sorry.

    Post # 8
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think RDs are getting out of hand (mine is over 65 people…ridiculous but not my call) so if it is a casual lunch, I dont think that is a big deal.  It sounds like your sister is jealous.

    Post # 9
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    908 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’m confused by the poll, are you asking if I would be offended as a bride or as a MOH?

    Post # 12
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I can totally understand if you are only having bridal party members for financial reasons. However, I know that I would totally be bothered if my sister invited me to the rehearsal lunch/dinner, whatever meal it is, and did not invite my husband. I don’t think everyone and their mother needs to be invited to the rehearsal dinner–but it is a nice way to thank the bridesmaids and groomsmen and I do think that means including significant others (not a flavor of the week, but husband, wife, fiance, living together, long-term). He doesn’t have to come to the actual rehearsal if you don’t want him around to watch, but could meet you at the place you are having lunch.

    It is definitely not an obligation, but a nice gesture, because sometimes it takes the help of a person’s significant other to be part of a wedding. However, it seems really extreme for your sister to be acting this way–I’d be annoyed husband wasn’t invited–but not stop talking, etc. Does she normally overreact to things? Is she a bit of a drama queen?

    Post # 13
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    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    hmmm…I understand your position, but I would be irritated if I was in your wedding party.  Here my husband and I have taken time off of work, bought a dress/shoes/whatever and he cant come to the lunch.  For an event celebrating marriage, I dont think I should have to exclude my husband.  I probably wouldnt make a big deal about it, but I would likely leave right after eating, especially if we had traveled to spend the weekend celebrating your day.

    We only invited the immediate wedding party + spouses/fiances to our RD so I definitely understand the desire for it not to be the pre-dinner before the wedding dinner with every OOT guest and family member.  But I think it is kind of sucky not to invite your BIL.  Also, I think you would be setting a precident in your circle.  From this point forward, people can invite only you or only your FH to events and you wouldnt be able to complain.

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