Post # 1
Ok, so I’ve been thinking about the rehearsal today and I have a dilemma, maybe.
You’re supposed to have the rehearsal no more than 2 days before the wedding, right? Well, our wedding is on a Monday and our venue is booked Friday-Sunday, so the soonest we could do it would be Thursday the week before. This poses a problem due to out of town guests. My possible solutions are:
1.) Have a “welcome dinner” the night before, rehearsal the morning of and a rehearsal brunch after
2.) Change my date to Tuesday and have the rehearsal the night before.
Cons of each
option 1.) Makes my day of very tight packed.
- 9am rehearse
- 10am -12pm brunch
- 12 pm Briday party, family set up venue; FH and I get ready for pictures
- 1-3 Pictures, just me and FH
- 3:30-4:30 refresh makeup and hair w/ bridal party
- 5pm Ceremony
- 5:20 – 6 pm – Pictures w/ family/bridal party
- 6-11pm Reception
option 2.) I think having a Tuesday wedding would be harder for people to come to and travel for than a Monday wedding. With Monday, people can request a 3 day weekend. With Tuesday, they’d have to work the day before and fly out in the evening or early morning.
Are there other options that I’m not seeing here? What would you do in this situation?
Post # 3
I don’t know what the best solution is, but I think whatever you do you should not have the wedding and rehearsal on the same day. That sounds so stressful to me!
Post # 4
Could you change to a Friday wedding? Then you could still have a Thursday rehearsal….Alternatively, you could wing the whole thing OR rehearse somewhere else.
Post # 5
Friday is not possible… it’s $600 more expensive for Friday and that is way too much out of our budget.
Post # 6
Hi notarobot –
I have a similar worry – My wedding is on a Saturday, our “rehearsal dinner” is on Friday, but our space is booked Friday so there’s no actual “rehearsal” to go with the “dinner”.
The venue instead is going to have a run-through/rehearsal an hour before the ceremony, just so everyone knows where they’re going —- but I (the bride) am not expected to be there.
I feel a little funny missing the rehearsal, but it takes a lot of stress off me. Everyone says it’s ok – I will have the ceremony memorized prior anyway:-), and my place during the ceremony will be obvious. Maybe you can do a similar thing?
Post # 7
I like the “rehearse somewhere else” option!
Post # 8
Well, I thought about the “rehearse elsewhere” option as well and I like it a lot, but how will I cue the processional songs properly? I guess I could probably time the processional songs at an earlier date since that I could do that with the people who are here in town, right? I’m using iPod playlists for the whole shebang, including the ceremony.
Post # 9
Go to your ceremony place at some point and measure the aisle so you know how long it is, or just ask the person that works there. Then on Sunday night before your wedding you can have a backyard bbq or something casual and tape off the aisle in your backyard (or a park if your backyard will not work). Having the length of the aisle with everyone walking down it will help you time the music just right for the ceremony. You can really do the rehearsal anywhere and then have dinner afterwards. I won’t find out if my ceremony space is available for a rehearsal until a week before the wedding, but we have plans to do it in my Mom’s backyard if its not available. Everyone in the wedding party are good friends anyway and will understand. You could even just go out to dinner after the rehearsal if you prefer that instead of a bbq.