Post # 1
Okay bees, I need some advice on this. We decided to have our wedding on a Saturday even though the cost was a lot higher because we have a lot of guests coming from out of town and didn’t want them to have to take off of work for too long. In fact, our entire bridal party, with 1 exception, is from a different state. When we booked our venue, they told us that because they schedule events on Friday night, our rehearsal would be Thursday night. Is this common? Has anyone else had this issue? I’m thinking about asking them if we can do it on Friday morning instead of Thursday night, but I’m not sure if they’ll go for that. What would you do? Ask your bridal party to take an additional day off of work to come down? And for the rehearsal dinner, should we do it on Thursday then? What happens Friday? So many logistics to think about… Help!
Post # 3
Yikes… not a great situation. Honestly, if I were in your bridal party.. that would be a real problem for me. I get limited vacation time as it is so having to take off an additional day would be an issue. Even if you did it Friday morning they would still have to fly/drive in on Thursday night which means the expense of an additional night in the hotel room. Is there any what you could just practice everything somewhere else. Like at your home or in a room at the hotel so people get the idea of the order of things? That way you could still do it on Friday. If you set up the room similar to how your venue will be set up I would think you should be fine. Most people can pick these things up pretty easily.
Post # 4
🙂 Actually we OPTED to have our rehearsal/dinner on Thursday evening instead of the night before (ours is on a Saturday also).
We have some out of town people in our bridal party, so we know some wont be able to make it (not for the rehearsal anyway) which doesn’t bother us because there will be ppl there to fill them in on the details (not like we’re doing anything crazy) lol
But, in your case, I can definitely see the issue since most is out of state. I would talk to the venue and inform them of the situation (with everyone being out of town) and if you could use the space in the morning (or the morning of the big day!) I’ve heard a lot of ppl doing the rehearsal that morning due to out of town BM/GMs. I can’t say I would want to, but its definitelyl a solution.
But, to asnwer your question … no, its not uncommon to do the rehearsal two days before so everyone can relax the night of. But good luck!!!!
Post # 5
We actually ran into this a lot when we were picking our venue. Seems a lot of places that typically book Saturday weddings also have events going on on Fridays, which makes it difficult to have a rehearsal. Luckily, the venue we settled on is okay for Friday rehearsals but I think this is becoming a more common problem.
Maybe the ones that can attend should attend, and they’ll have to help everyone else out? Or maybe schedule the rehearsal for as late as possible to hopefully allow more time for others to make it there. I think I would keep the rehearsal dinner immediately following the rehearsal (regardless of what day it’s scheduled for). Then you’ll have the Friday to relax.
Post # 6
Can you practice somewhere else? Our venue also books on Fridays so we were told that if we book a room in a restaurant for the rehearsal dinner our coordinator from the venue will meet us at the restaurant and do the rehearsal there.
It’s not ideal, but my bridal party is from out of town too and I refuse to make them take ANOTHER day off.
Post # 7
even if you had the rehearsal friday morning people would have to travel thursday, so whether it’s thursday night or friday morning doesn’t matter. i would try to do it somewhere else friday night.
Post # 8
I actually just posted a similar question a week or two ago.. my parents were shocked when I said I wanted to do the rehearsal on Fri night before a Saturday wedding. They had a Fri wedding and did the rehearsal on Wed, and assumed I’d be having the rehearsal on Thursday.
I had NEVER heard of doing it two days before until I posted on the Bee asking for opinions & I got a few replies about doing it two days ahead, so I guess it’s more common than I thought.
My suggestion: Ask the wedding party when they are planning on coming in (if you’re not positive all of them were planning to come in on Friday). Explain the situation to everyone & say Thursday night was a possibility for the rehearsal/dinner, but you wanted to check with everyone to see if that was an option that would work (as they are the ones coming in town early), that you’re just trying to gauge everyone’s responses & figure out a time/day that will work best for everyone.
Any possibility of even doing it Friday afternoon, maybe later in the afternoon & doing an early dinner?
Post # 9
Atlanta in October is pretty, maybe something laid back, a cook out on friday night after the rehersal? that way there’s no pressure on anyone, and your wedding party do not have to take another day off
Post # 10
I think the idea to have it somewhere else is ideal. The problem is, our coordinator comes with the venue, so if they have a wedding there Friday night, chances are that she’ll be busy with their venue. She may be willing to meet us around lunch somewhere. FI suggested videotaping the rehearsal on Thursday and then playing it for everyone before the rehearsal dinner on Friday. Not sure if that would work or not…
@kt23525: Good point. I’ll check with them and find out when they are planning on coming in. They might be planning on Thursday anyway so then it won’t be an issue.
Post # 11
@RingAroundtheRosie: I opted to do Thursday evening as well for rehearsal and dinner (well next year of course). However, if someone had to take off from work to participate then that might not go over well. Maybe you can think of an alternative…. like you can have a rehearsal anywhere…it doesn’t have to be at the physical location unless the layout is tricky…and then those that can participate can and those who can’t wont have to take off from work….
Post # 12
My rehearsal dinner is also on a Thursday, I’m getting married on a Monday. Almost half my guests are out-of-towners as my fiance is Australian, so we have people literally travelling 17 hours by plane to get to my wedding. Because they are coming from so far, everyone is staying in the US for at least a week, most of them are making it their holiday and staying for up to a month so we really aren’t having any issues with it.
Talk to your venue but they may tell you that they’ll be preparing for other weddings