Post # 1
My fiancee and I are currently debating on whether to do our wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on Thursday or Friday night (our wedding is on Saturday). I know that Friday is traditional but my concern is that a Friday rehearsal dinner will be a bit stressful and will mean that I don’t get enough sleep the night before the wedding. The dinner will be at a restaurant with a private patio and an open bar, so I know people will want to stay and celebrate. I think the reality is that I won’t be home before midnight (and the bridal party might even be out later) and our hair appointments start the next morning at 8am. I really don’t want to be exhausted on my wedding day! All of this makes me want a Thursday rehearsal. BUT – what I am worried about is that I have 2 slightly Out of Town bridesmaids. One is a half an hour drive away and one is an hour an a half drive away (so, not too far, but still). Everyone else will be in town. Is it unfair to these 2 bridesmaids to have the rehearsal dinner on Thursday? What would you guys do???
Post # 3
I was in a similar sitch as you, Saturday wedding, early hair appointments, etc. We decided to just keep it traditional and do the Rehearsal on Friday. I think we got back from dinner around 11, but my sister/MOH (who spent the night with me) and I didn’t get to bed until around maybe 1-1:30am? We planned to get up at 5:00, and we did!
You know what? I was not tired at all during the wedding day. I went strong from 5:00am til 11:00pm (noon wedding, 2-6pm reception, after-party til 11pm). All the excitement gave me enough of a rush that I felt just fine. I don’t regret a thing.
Post # 4
Oh, I should probably mention that 1) No, I do not normally get only 4.5 hrs of sleep, so I was not accustomed to it; and 2) I took that Friday off from work, so the day before I probably had a good 8.5-9 hrs of sleep. That probably helped.
Post # 5
@PeachBee: I had the same concerns. I really wanted to have a Thursday night rehearsal dinner. But we had our ceremony at a public venue that has 5 weddings every Saturday so the rehearsal dinner was scheduled the night before since they have Friday weddings. I was scared everyone was going to be hungover but they weren’t. I just had to get my nails done Thursday night since Friday was a busy day. I went to bed around 11 the night before my wedding and woke up at 6:30 and I was fine.
If you had it on Friday where would your Out of Town friends stay? with you? If that’s the case I would do it Friday
Post # 6
We’re having our rehearsal on Friday because all but 2 of our attendants are from out of town (varying from 2-16 hours by car). It was really important to us to have everyone there, so we tried to make it as convenient as possible for people to make it.
You could still have your rehearsal on Thursday but just not have those bridesmaids attend if they can’t make it. Unless you’re doing something totally out of the ordinary, the others will be able to tell them what to do on the wedding day.
Post # 7
We’re doing ours on the Thursday for the same reasons! No big deal. 🙂
Post # 8
I am having my rehearsal on a Thursday because my wedding is at 1pm on Saturday. Also, since that Friday is Good Friday, I had several requests for it to be on Thursday because of religious services…
Post # 9
We did Thursday night and it was great because I took Friday off and got to relax, drop off last minute things, and then be in bed at a decent time. I would ask your BM’s about having a Thurdsay night rehersal and see what they have to say. I would hardly consider a half hour drive Out of Town, but just check with the Bridesmaid or Best Man who is an hour and a half away and see what she was planning.
Post # 10
The part I am worried about is that I know my 2 Out of Town bridesmaids would not miss the rehearsal, they are such good friends they would move heaven and earth to be there. That being said, that doesn’t mean it won’t put them out. In terms of where they will stay on the rehearsal night, I am assuming they will stay with me, other bridesmaids who live nearby, or at a hotel. We haven’t really made that plan yet.
The part of me that is worried about these 2 bridesmaid makes me think I should just suck it up and do the rehearsal on the Friday. But then I was talking to one of the groomsmen the other day and he said (mirroring my thoughts) “please DO NOT do the rehearsale dinner on Friday, we want to be able to celebrate!” Ugh, it is so hard to please everyone.
Haha, this wedding makes me over-analyse everything! I can’t make any decisions!
Post # 11
I would do Friday out of respect for the Out of Town bridesmaids. Granted they are not too far, but it still makes them drive at least an extra 1-3 hours, or if they don’t want to do that, they may get hotel rooms an extra night. Bridal parties generally give a lot to be in a wedding, so I wouldn’t want to ask more of them.
Post # 12
We did friday before our Saturday wedding. We wanted to party it up the night before our wedding. Celebrate that all the crazy planning is finally OVER! Waking up early (8am) for hair and make up wasn’t that bad. It’s still a lot later than what I or my bms wake up for to get ready for work so it was no biggie. But we are night owls and “party animals”.
Half of our wedding party was also considered Out of Town. Either 1.5 plane ride or 1.5 drive. So we couldn’t ask them to take 2 days off work to attend a Thursday rehearsal.
Post # 13
We had to do our wedding on Friday night because many of our family and friends were coming from out of town.
Our rehearsal dinner ended aroud 10:30pm but we only got back to our rooms around midnight. I fell asleep around 1am and I still woke up at 7:00am for breakfast and to start getting ready. I was completely fine. Too much adrenaline to be tired! 🙂
Post # 14
If your dinner were on Friday, would the Out of Town BMs travel, stay in town for Friday night, then attend the wedding Saturday? If that is the case, I would honestly probably do a Friday night rehearsal dinner. If they were planning to travel home after the rehearsal either way, I think it is fine to do it on a Thursday. I’m sure your friends will make it work either way, but I wouldn’t really want to inconvenience people like that.
Post # 15
Personally I would do Friday to help out the bridal party. You could probably get a lot of your “TO DO” list (last minute programs, decor ready, etc) done on Thursday, where you only have to worry about day-of stuff Saturday morning (such as hair, make-up, etc). Also to think about…if you did it Thursday and people had to leave right after dinner/gifts b/c they have to work in Friay morning or drive home, would be disappointed or fine with it? That may be a factor too.
Maybe you could poll the group and go with majority??
Either way, with all the excitment of the wedding day, I would guess you’ll have endless energy and be high on life (at least until midnight that is!). 🙂 I have yet to talk to a bride who could actually sleep the night before her wedding day regardless!! 🙂
Post # 16
our wedding is on Saturday but plan on having rehearsal on Friday night as most of the people still have to work and Friday seems like a better choice. If for some reason a couple of the Bridal Party cannot make it, I am sure the rest of the people can fill them in.
And I feel like hold the rehearsal closer to the wedding date the better, as if people are as forgetful as me, it’s better to rehearse last minute.
Still deciding where to host rehearsal dinner so maybe somewhere really casual and close to the venue so people doesn’t need to stay that late as we will have a BIG day coming up next day 🙂