Post # 1
I’m not having a traditional wedding party. But, one of the things FI and I are thinking about doing is have our siblings and their spouses and a few close friends process down the aisle. They wouldn’t be standing anywhere – they’d just walk down and sit in reserved rows.
I really didn’t think I wanted to have a rehearsal -but, after speaking with our officiant and site coordinator – they strongly suggested doing so.
On the Thursday night before the wedding (when most of the OOT family will arrive), my cousin offered to host a dinner at his house (at the time, there would be no rehearsal dinner – so he stepped in to fill that slot). His house is about a 40 minute drive without traffic (and with traffic easily over an hour from the venue). Which makes doing a rehearsal and then going to his house impossible.
We could do a quick rehearsal on Friday evening, but I’m not financially prepared to host a traditional rehearsal dinner for everyone afterwards. I’d love to do a non-hosted event somewhere or even a casual get together at someone’s home (more local) but I can’t quite figure out the logistics of it all….
Any thoughts about what might work best??
Post # 3
I’m of the opinion that if you’re doing a rehearsal, no matter how small, you should have an RD as well. You could just do pizza and salads if it’s not for a lot of people.
Post # 4
I agree with Ali. If you’re asking people to come out and practice your wedding, it is courteous to take them out for a meal afterward. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive… going out for pizza would be a blast!
Post # 5
We are in the exact same boat. Yesterday my mom was STRONGLY suggesting that we have the rehearsal. The wedding will be in a very small town (on my parents property) and the best places to eat are 45 minutes away, in every direction. We really dont have a wedding “party,” just his sister. FI and I are on a very tight budget, and our parents can’t contribute financially, so this is what we decided; We will have a short rehearsal on friday night, and afterwards, we will be driving (45 minutes) to a casino, and eating at the buffet there. They have great food, and Friday night is “steak night.” I’m thinking if I make a timeline for the few guests that do come from out of town, I’ll just say something like, “Come join us for dinner at the Casino….” and let them know the price. I was planning on including a few rolls of pennies anyway in an OOT bag- so I’m hoping that will work.
Our parents understand the $ situation, and they agreed we all go dutch. We do plan on paying for some of the OOT family and the officiate. But since we dont really have a wedding party, we are leaving an open invite.
Anyway- sorry I wasn’t much help, I started rambling on about my own ordeal…lol. Do whatever you are comfortable with!
Post # 6
I have to agree with SanDiegoAli. If you’re doing a rehearsal, you need to feed the people participating. It’s doesn’t have to be big and fancy. Order pizza, grill out, burgers & hotdogs, etc. Something simple, but you should really provide dinner.