Post # 1
Bees, I’m from a small country town and the fact that in having a reception with music and catering not from Lee’s make my wedding the biggest thing my family has ever seen. Needless to say, rehearsal dinners aren’t really something they ever did, so what do I do? My grandmother is payingn and would never pay for something so silly in her eyes, and I certainly can’t afford it, but I also don’t want to breech etiquette nor tradition. Any ideas?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@frommisstomrs.: Could you have the family over for dinner or even order pizza after? Our rehearsal dinner was so much fun! And a great way to relax before everything that will happen the next day!
Post # 4
@frommisstomrs.: you could have a potluck!
Post # 5
@frommisstomrs.: Invite those who are in the wedding (and at the rehearsal) over for pizza, chips, popcorn and such. You can easily feed 15 people for less than $100. Look for deals (like Papa John’s $10 deal) and buy the chips on sale or with coupons if you are really concerned about the price.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
A friend of mine did the pizza thing and we had a great time. It was at her brother’s house and he provided alcohol and soda. They just got enough pizza to feed everyone along with some snacks and I think a salad too. It’s an affordable option.
Post # 7
@frommisstomrs.: We had pizza and beer! Cheap and fun 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@frommisstomrs.: You don’t have to serve dinner for the rehearsal. It’s your wedding and you can do what you want. Just make sure it’s clear that there will be no meal, and don’t schedule the rehearsal around meal time.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think the suggestion for a pizza party is great. As an alternative, you could set up your own taco bar for pretty cheap. Offer hard and soft shells (or maybe tortilla chips for something nacho-style), seasoned ground turkey and ground beef, some toppings, and call it yummy. Add some sodas and end with some grocery store cupcakes. Easy peasy, and everything can be easily prepped ahead of time to make for simple serving.
Post # 10
I would LOVE to go to a RD pizza party!
Post # 11
We are having a rehearsal, but no dinner! The day before the wedding our families are going to our ceremony/reception location to decorate, and our officiant (FI’s uncle) is going to be there to do some run throughs of the ceremony (the song i’m walking down the aisle to needs to be timed at certain points so it may take a while to get haha)
But after that we aren’t having a big family dinner or anything, probably just finish baking at my parents house and then head to the hotel to get some sleep!
When my FSIL got married she did the exact same thing. A rehearsal run through of the ceremony, then decorated the reception hall then we all went home. I never knew people actually through big dinners, I thought it was just in movies haha. I don’t see the point in having a dinner..
Post # 12
Thank you for the ideas, everyone! I will think about the pizza party, but it could possibly add up to quite a bit! Will have to run the numbers!
Post # 13
@Brace2014: Well that makes me feel better! I might just do that. 🙂
Post # 14
at FSIL’s rehearsal I couldn’t imagine trying to get everyone together and sit down and eat, there was so much to do!
And I know for my rehearsal there is going to be even more things to do because of lot of the food we are making has to be cooked the day before the wedding! Plus, I would truly rather spend the evening having a private dinner with my FI and have a last “singles” night together before the wedding, you are having dinner with everyone on your wedding day anyways ! (:
If you just tell people you are having a quick litle rehearsal and setting up decorations they shouldn’t be expecting dinner
Post # 15
What if you got some sandwich trays for everyone to munch on afterwards, or even during the rehearsal? Or cheese and fruit trays?
Post # 16
We aren’t doing dinner. We are having the rehearsal in the evening, after normal dinner time. I think it’s fine.