Post # 1
Sorry if this is in the wrong section; I didn’t where to post it.
Fi & I are getting married on October 5th of this year. We have everything planned, have ceremony/reception venues deposited on, my dress, my BM dresses, a photographer, and invites are going out at the end of this month.
Our only snag so far is in our rehersal dinner. FI stared a new job (as a temp in a factory) before planning started. He works 4 days on with the following 4 days off; and this is where the dilemma strikes: He works the afternoon before our wedding, with our wedding be the first of his days off.
As temp, he’s hesitant to ask off. His day starts at 4p and the ceremony venue is about 45 min to an hour away from his work. My daughter will be in school (preschool)and I’m pretty sure most of my girls work during the day.
Any ideas ladies? Because we’re coming up short. Lol.
Post # 3
Is it going to be a small rehearsal/dinner? I’ve known people doing small ones to have something the week before, or a few days before. You could also forgo a rehearsal all together, that’s what I did and it turned out just fine!
Post # 4
We didn’t have a rehearsal dinner. It didn’t seem necessary – I figured people can walk down an aisle without practicing first (and they did!). We did something unusual I guess – I had dinner at a fave restaurant with my family and any OOT guests who wanted to come and H had dinner and drinks with some of his friends and OOT guests at the hotel where we had our room block (he stayed there the night before and I stayed in our apt). So I saw him Friday morning before he left for work, and then not again until the doors opened and I started walking down the aisle!
Post # 5
@MrsTVLover: Most likely. It would just be my FI & myself; plus our respective parties (5 each) and the FG/RB (and his parents since he’s only 6). Possibly our parents; we’re unsure on that yet.
If it were up to me; I would forgo the Rehersal but my mother is insistant because of the kids; as they tend to do better with guidance. (Though I’m well aware that is no indicator how they’ll act the day of lol)
Our ceremony is in the atrium of a nice hotel a couple of towns over & the only time we may have it is the evening before; I’ll have to ask their coordinator.
Post # 6
@oneofthesethings: I would rather do something like that, as a large portion of my family is OOT. I’ll throw this idea to FI & see what he thinks 🙂
Post # 7
@LadyBortles: To be honest, if you’re having him start the ceremony at the altar, there isn’t much he needs to do in terms of rehearsing. He goes in early, stands, follows the officiants instructions, and walks out with you. Worst case you could rehearse without him to make sure that the party and kids know what’s going on. The idea sounds painful to me, but it could do as a last resort. Also, the dinner portion is not precisely necessary, or could be really casual at someone’s house.
Post # 8
Do the rehearsal the morning of the wedding if you don’t have issues with him seeing you the day of. Or, perhaps you could do it the day before but in the morning, and have a rehearsal brunch?
Post # 9
@ArtDecoDC: My plan was to have him stand with our officiant, the boys walk down the girls, then the FG & RB, then my Dad & I. I couldn’t grasp (aside from the little ones) why it would be necassary. I agree it would probably end up being a giant pain in the ass. My plan was for us to give the kids their little thank you gifts after rehearsing; then the adult go out for dinner & drinks before going back to the hotel (we’re doing our bachelor/ette parties the week or 2 before so nobody is hungover the day of) for the night.
@abbie017: I don’t mind and he’s only expressed not wanting to see me in my dress before I go down the isle. We also considered the brunch idea; but would have to work with the BMs/GMs as far as if they work that day or not.