Post # 1
We are starting to look for locations to hold our Rehersal Dinner at and I am having a diffiicult time thinking of resturants in the downtown Madison area. There will be aprox 45 people attending. Has anyone had a rehersal dinner in the downtown area and what reccomadations could you pass along our way! Thanks 🙂
PS….if most of our guest are coming from out of town do we need to invite them to the rehersal dinner as well?
Happy Planning to All
Post # 3
You should try to look on your local board to see if anyone has suggestions there.
Post # 4
@Wumkins: You dont HAVE to invite all your OOT guests but some people think it is the right thing to do. Originally I wanted to do a smaller more intimate rehearsal dinner with only bridal party and immediate family. However, we ended up doing all our OOT guesta and since our wedding was domestic destination we had 95% of our guests at our rehearsal dinner. I actually LOVED having everyone there because it still felt intimate (around 95 people) but I was able to spend more time with our guests and didnt feel as much pressure on our wedding night to talk to each person because I had already talked to them at the rehearsal dinner.
We did a BBQ and it was a lot of fun!
Post # 5
I’d say it’s polite to invite any OOT guests who are in town that night – they traveled all that way to celebrate with you, so invite them!
My #1 piece of advice for choosing a location for the dinner is LOCATION. Don’t have it be too far away from the ceremony site or hotel unless you are providing transportation for guests (and that’s expensive.. so don’t!)
I attended a rehersal dinner once that was over a half hour drive away from the ceremony site – and then we had to drive a half hour back to the hotel, which was unfortunate bc we were tired and a little tipsy. So don’t look for the most glamorous place to host it – look for a place nearby that is reasonably priced. After all, the rehersal dinner isn’t the main event.. the wedding is, and that’s what people will remember the most!!
Post # 6
Almost all our guests were from out of town, but we simply could not afford to invite them. My family is so huge that we just did the family and about 6 close friends. It was expensive in San Diego (it was over $2,000 for 35 people). We made up for it by doing the night before the rehearsal out on the town with all the other people we couldn’t invite.
Post # 7
I like the idea of inviting your OOT guests. However, in our case, all of the OOT guests are on my side. All of FI family/friends are local. So it would obviously be very unbalanced. Also, we are planning and paying for the dinner ourselves. At $67/person, we can’t afford to invite too many people. To keep things simple and fair, we are inviting immediate family and bridal party and spouses (includes readers, greeters, parents of flower girl). This gets us to about 35 people.
Post # 8
We’re going to be doing the rehearsal dinner at our house, for everyone at the rehearsel AND OOT guests.
We recently bought our home and we have a huge and gorgeous backyard. We figured everyone would be able to see the new house, and enjoy a really yummy catered bbq dinner. It’ll also allow us to spend more time with our OOT guests in more of a warm and cozy atmosphere, rather then a restaurant.
I’m not from Madison, but if I wasn’t going to have the rehearsal dinner in our backyard I thought about having it at Melting Pot. Most of their locations have a banquet room and their food is amazing. Maybe check and see if you have one where you live? It can be pricey though! Good luck!