Post # 1
IM NEW TO THIS WEBSIDE, HOPE YOU GUYS HELP ME FOR SOME ADVICES, IM A FEMALE 33 YEARS OLD ,HAVE BEEN DATING A SOLDIER TWO YEARS AGO , THIS MEN HAD TWO BAD EX MARRIAGES RELASHIONSHIPS , HAS A KID FROM A SECOND WIFE , MY BOYFREIND IS STATIONED IN GERMANY QND HAS TO GO BACK TO USA IN TWO WEEKS , I M NOW CONFUSED AND I DONT RRALLY TRUST THAT HE WILL STAY FAITHFUHL WHEN HE IS IN THE NEAR OF HIS EX ,I DISCUSEED WITH HIM THE IDEA OF ENGAGEMENT AND HE ANSWERED THAT THIS SCARED HIM AND I HAVE TO WAIT TILL NEXT YEAR BECAUSE HE THINKS TWO YEARS DATING IT S NOT ENOUGH TO MARRY ME, IT S BITHER ME THE WQY HE THINKS AND I TOLD HIM IM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS FAILURES ,I DONT REALLY WANT TO WAIT TILL NEXT SEPTEMBER BECAUSE IM A GERMAIN STUDENT AND MY STUDIES WILL FINISHED NEXT YEAR HE MEANT WE HAVE TO WAIT TILL I COME OVER AND SEE HOW THINGS WILL WORK OUT. I M AFRAID TO WAIT TEN MONTHS FOR NOTHING . I M JUST CONFUSED RIGHT NOW. PLEASE SOME ADVICES. THANKS.
Post # 3
I would love to give you advice, especially if you are also a military family. However, a sad face doesn’t allow me to do much on that front.
Post # 4
@aliavenue: PLEASE READ MY TEXT THANKS
Post # 5
the best advice i can give is do not push the issue….that will only lead to resentment and heartache.
also- if you have any doubts about him remaining faithfull then there is no way you two are ready to get engaged let alone married.
trust and respect is the foundation of any relationship and if that’s not there then there will be nothing for you two to build on.
if i was you- i would give him a kiss and send him back to the states and just see what happens. remember- absence makes the heart grow fonder! 🙂 if it’s meant to be, he’ll come back to you- or once you finish your studies you can go to him.
Post # 6
@tzmustafa: I APPRECIE YOUR KIND WORDE THANKS, HE ASSURED ME NIT TO WORRY MUCH BECAUSE HE CANT IMAGINE TO GO BACK TO HIS EX AND IF GE DOEE HE WILL BE A FOUL TO LOOSE SOEMONE LIKE ME , I WERE THINKING WITH ENGAGEMENT IT S A PROUVE FOR ME THAT HE MEANS SERIOUS RELASHIONSHIP AND IT WILL CALM ME A BIT BUT AN OTHER WAY I M NOT REALLY WILLING TO WAIT AGAIN , I JUST WAITED NOW NINE MONTHS BECAUSE HE WERE DEPLOYED AND HE CAME BACK TWO MOKTHS AGI AND NOW HE MUSS AGAIN LEAVE , I WERE FAITHFUHL AND I WAITED BUT I EDPECTED THAT UE GETS ENGAGED BEFORE HE GO TO AMERICA , WELL MY SORROW ITS THAT THE WHOLE SITUATION WILL AFFECT MY STUDIES.
Post # 7
@nurse2014: I am sorry this is bothering you enough to affect your studies! I hope you will work on that to keep your grades up. I’m hoping for the best for your relationship. What part of Germany do you live? My mom spent quite a lot of time in Stuttgart. I always loved visiting and taking day trips to Berlin and Munich.
Post # 8
It seems like there is a lot of stress and worry around this relationship. You should ask him for deadlines and details, like, “In one more year we will either get engaged or break up.” That way he can’t keep putting you off forever. Also, if you get a bad feeling from him in terms of loyalty or commitment, there is usually a reason and you should trust yourself!
Post # 9
My advice: you should probably stop typing in all caps, it’s going to get old real fast and it’s considered ‘rude’ .