- 3 years ago
I am so lost. I have confided in my sister and best friend about whats going on, and I totally appreciate their advise. But curious what you ladies would think..
I have been with my husband for 4.5 years, not married for long.
Long story shorter….
I have always always been upfront about what I want in this relationship and what I need and I feel like he totally ignores me. More so not that we are married… <br /><br />My relationship…
I have openly communicated with my husband about my concerns, specially my family concerns OVER AND OVER. Almost weekly. No lie. Its to the point that with the my family concerns, my family is noticing and its becoming even more bothersome for me. I have reached out to him and voiced my concerns a million times, a no effort on his end. Just the way he is around them, and doesnt show care or interest. He literally will not pay attention during converstaions… and now doesnt attned get together. I have “covered” for him the last few get togethers, while he is home or doing things he wants to do.
One thing i learned from previous relations is not communicating equals more problems. well i am communicating and we are getting no where. Its coming to the point that I dont even want to be around him because i feel so disrespected and feel no courtesy at all.
I talk to him about issues over and over again, especially as they arise. Deal with things as we go.
Recently, it was brought to my attention (out of concern from a close friend who is well aware of my wants), that he has voiced his recent lack of want for children. so much so that if we dont conceive this year, no kids at all! I have openly communicated to him, when we were dating/engaged and even now married… that children has to be an option. Not sure if i wanted any yet, but i needed the option. Did he just agree to keep me?!
I feel like since i have married him the care of the things i want/need in this relationship are no longer is care. I have literally compromised my whole life for his wants/needs, i didnt think the mutual respect would be so bad 🙁
Now for the intimacy portion. He has gotten SUPER boring in bed. Same thing all the time. I have suggested and tried to spice things up, and he literally laughed at me and continued his own way… talk about make a girl feel embarrassed!
<br />feeling broken and sad. Feel like i cant repeat myself anymore. I have writen him a letter discussing these details… and planning to give it to him next week.
What would you do? After expressing your feelings for so long… what would be your final straw, if there is one?