Relationship anxiety/obsessive compulsive disorder

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
730 posts
Busy bee

That’s not OCD, it’s just anxiety. I know from personal experience that this is easier said than done, but when you find yourself ruminating, STOP. Changing the way you think is a lot of work, but you need to do it. What if you DO get bored a few years into your marriage? So what? Rationalize it out– tell yourself that IF that happens, you will find a way to cope, but there is no sense in wigging out about it now. Then distract yourself. Remind yourself that rumination is NOT helping you to solve any problems whatsoever. When you have an intrusive thought, take a deep breath and dismiss it. 

Post # 4
5007 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have you tried therapy?

Post # 5
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It sounds like you’re experiencing the ‘O’ side of OCD – obsessions aren’t just linked to your compulsions, they can also include unwanted and intrusive thoughts. The common ones are thinking about disease or death but I think what you’re describing also qualifies. I’ve got OCD and general anxiety disorder and I know what sort of thoughts you mean – I haven’t had these ones specifically but I have other unwanted, intrusive thoughts that I’m ashamed of but can’t seem to get rid of.

If you can’t take medication and can’t see a shrink, you can try working on some self-help techniques. What really helped me in these sort of situations is to stop and say to myself, “This is just a reaction to anxiety. It does not mean these thoughts are actually true. I’m having them BECAUSE I have anxiety”. Then try to distract yourself – read a book, go for a walk, watch TV or something. Some people do have what they call ‘pure O’ OCD without the compulsions – do you think this describes you? Mine is much more about compulsions than obsessions but I do get what you mean.

Post # 5
19 posts



sorry to dig this up, but you mentioned something about taking a medicine for Pure O. I think that is what I have and I was not sure if taking a medicine would help? there intrusive thoughts have taken over my life.

Post # 6
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Liberty601:  My OCD encompasses all three letters, but I have had intrusive thoughts since I was a child. I started medication when I was 20 and it has helped a lot with a lot of the symptoms, including intrusive thoughts. I’m on 40mg of celexa/citalopram. I still have intrusive thoughts sometimes, but they’re much less and I can shut them down more easily. Even though compulsions are annoying and time consuming, I hate the intrusive thoughts more. I hope medication helps you as much as it has helped me. It isn’t perfect, but there is a difference!

Post # 7
101 posts
Blushing bee

I’m actually going to my first therapy session next Wednesday. I don’t have anxiety over the exact same issues, but I freak out about certain things that I know are unreasonable. I can’t get it through my head to just be at ease about certain things. My SO even finally asked me to get help.. so I am..

I’m nervous but really excited to hopefully find some help and not feel so out of control. Maybe that would help you too?

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Post # 8
614 posts
Busy bee

I can’t offer any good advice but I symphathize! I get overly obsessive in my thoughts on anything bad. It’s like my mind takes any situation, finds the worst thing possible and goes through it over and over again. 

I’m not sure if it’s anxiety, OCD or whatever, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m finally going to talk to my doctor about it. I always just thought this was normal part of “worrying”

Only thing that’s any help at all is to find something else to do. 


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