Relationship help and understanding of it.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1719 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t understand what you’re saying, to be quite honest. 

You said “I was sorry for what i did yet; he keeps bring it back up.” What did you do? 

If you still have feelings for him and he still has feelings for you, why won’t you move past being just friends?

What you’ve written seems to have some important information missing from it. We may be able to give you some helpful advice if you give us a more detailed version of your situation. 

Post # 4
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rhopalocera:  +1 

OP, there has to be more to this story 

Post # 7
1719 posts
Bumble bee

@Angeleye:  I’m sorry, Angeleye, but what you’re saying still doesn’t make enough sense for us to help you. There are crucial details that are missing from your story. In fact, the very conflict you and he are having is not clear.

Try to answer these questions for us:

You said in your post that you were sorry for what you did, but that he kept bringing it back up. What are you sorry for?

You said in your reply to me that you were mad at him. Why were you mad at him?

What problem caused the two of you to break up, and why are you reluctant to be in a relationship with him again? The reason for the break up that you stated in the beginning of your first post does not make sense, which is why I am asking you for the cause of the break up again.  

Please try to answer these questions, otherwise I don’t think we’ll be able to help you. What you’ve told us so far is too vague for us to help. 

Post # 9
1719 posts
Bumble bee

@Angeleye:  Ah, okay. That makes more sense. 

You don’t want to get back into a relationship with him because you don’t know how he feels about you, but you are willing to remain friends. He wants to remain friends too, but he is also leaving the door open for getting back together. Got it.

I think what you’ll need to do is ask him how he feels about you and why he wants to be in a relationship with you. Ask him what the point of the relationship would be if you and he did get back together. Basically, what does he want out of the relationship. 

If you are not comfortable with the answers he gives you, then don’t get back into a relationship with him. Furthermore, if being friends with him becomes too difficult for you and causes you feelings of hurt and conflict, you may have to end the friendship as well.  

I hope this helps. 


Post # 11
1719 posts
Bumble bee

@Angeleye:  Yeah, it seems that leaving him alone is the best thing to do. The situation is far too emotionally charged right now.

Maybe when some time passes you and he will be able to work out whether the two of you should be friends or in a romantic relationship. For now, distance and time away from him are probably for the best.  

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