- 3 years ago
FI & I have been together for 3 years, engaged for 1.5. My issue is, when I first met FI’s family, they were a close knit group (there are 4 siblings) who all met together on Saturday night for dinner and drinks at one of their homes. The 4 nieces / nephews would play together & every week something was going on. This is one of the things that I fell in love with. I didn’t have the best up-bringing & I was really happy to be a part of a family — it was one of the things that made me fall deeper in love with FI – his family devotion.
Fast forward to today, and they have all drifted – most of it due to conflicts, and immaturity. They are all 26-35 years old and live within 3 miles of eachother. 2 are married, 2 are engaged.
We hardly talk to them anymore and it’s killing me. I don’t have siblings of my own to interact with, so I really don’t understand if this is a normal thing, or if my dreams of being part of this big family are over. I tried to reach out to the other ladies in the family, but they never respond, or only call me now if they need something (ex. advice related to my field of work/education).
I really am upset over all of this and FI just keeps telling me to move on, and forget about it, and it is what it is.
How can you just move on, away from your family? I feel like I got attached, and now am going through a “break-up”.
FMIL & FFIL are keeping their distance, and don’t accept our invitations for dinner or outings.
Anyone have any insight? I’d be devastated if my kids didn’t have cousins to grow up with. Is this a deal breaker?